nunewf,
I go to AA meetings and do like being around people "like me." However, I do hate the "my way or the highway" kind of thinking.
You will find people here are very understanding and very caring. No reprisals or "I told you so" attitude.
I would read RJ's book because it is for more than just those who want to moderate. The supplements help a lot. I mean a lot. You do not necessarily have to buy them from this website. (Sorry RJ) but the ones on here are as good and usually better than you can find elsewhere for about the same price.
Darn, now I am sounding like a salesman and that is not what I intended. However, the difference between here and AA is that someone (RJ) has actually done some serious research into the causes and curatives for our addiction. RJ's program incorporates supplements to help the body overcome the alcohol's results on our body and help alleviate some of the physical and mental symptoms we go through as we abstain.
It is quite true that you can take all the supplements and even the Topamax and drink through it, though. Just like AA, there is that element of determination.
However, the difference is, when you take good vitamins and supplements to help your body, your determination has a much easier time winning the battle.
However, many on this website do none of it and stay AF (alcohol free) or mod (moderate) and do it well.
It is up to you.
I, however, find that when I am physically healthier, I can beat back those urges much easier.
RJ's program addresses the physical needs in three ways: supplements, exercise and meds.
Many do not use the meds. I can't because I have a bad reaction to them.
Darn. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you with this. You do not need to do anything except log in and be with others like yourself. We are all in the same boat. I am just trying to point you into some areas you may want to research yourself.
Again, welcome and glad you are here.
Cindi