[A Work in Progress]

SP: this is such hard stuff, isn't it? You might (if you have not already) think about options other than "letting go" of your family... sounds as if you have being working on drinking moderately, and you drink much less than you once did, but you still sometimes drink too much... and your family does not want to live with even "sometimes" drinking too much... that is something you will have to put into the equation: how important is it to you to continue to drink (at all)? Maybe even antabuse would be a choice, for a while, if you were to decide that AF is your only good option?

I have spent lots of time in the same pattern... drinking MUCH less than I once did (which in itself is a really good outcome for my health) but also getting really drunk once in a while (which is a bad outcome for my relationships with others)... At this point I just don't think the occasional times when I happily and enjoyably drink just a couple of drinks is worth all the rest of the bad stuff...

Just some thoughts...

best wishes,

wip