Uni,
I may be all wet, but here's some thoughts I think there are some common themes here. The first is to be open and honest. It's the foundation of any good relationship. If you snooped his email, come clean. Tell him you had lingering doubts about his summer activity and that's why you snooped. I think a sincere apology for snooping should probably follow the confession. Trust cuts both ways, and we all need to honor the privacy of even our closest loves.
Is it time to have the discussion about where the relationship is going? If the 2 of you truly have a future, there really shouldn't be some old baggage that could pop its ugly head up when you least want it to. I think your therapist has you on the right track (I read this on the other thread). Clear the air, enjoy a special event (make a particularly romantic dinner, or go out) and keep coming here. Because a whole lot of people who have left the drinking train are finally seeing all the wonderful people in this world, and you're one of them.
V.
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