1967,
Sorry you are having a hard time. To be honest, it seems like your dad is enjoying the company and having you there...so he follows you around, trying to make conversation, maybe he is a bit lonely and when he has a few drinks, it makes him chatty and he wants to spend time with you (my father also talks about stupid stuff when he comes to visit...complete crap but I have to smile and nod and listen...but then he goes home again)..not so in your case.
Maybe if you explain to him that you don't mind spending a hour or so with him in the evening, for a quick chat etc....but then you have a lot of work to do and you would appreciate if he left you to it. Tell him, you love him and enjoy spending time with him but the work you have to do is important and you lose your train of thought when you are disturbed.Maybe suggest having a little dinner with him a couple of nights per week and then when finished tell him goodnight and you have to go do your work and you will see him in the morning.
I can understand how frustrated it must be making you and I really hope you can come to a happy compromise with your Dad.
Popeye, You defo did the right thing by leaving your Fathers house...Nobody has the right to make you feel like that. My guess is, he is trying to "help" you in his own way but driving you away with his attitude.
I commend you for being polite and respectful, not always easy in that situation and just shows your strength of character.
Sadly, we can choose our friends but we cannot choose our family.....all we can do is our best to deal with the situation and love them anyway!
Love,
o2m
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Though all grace the heavens in the ecstasy of flight,
the butterfly has known the drudgery of the crawl
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His new found freedom is richer,
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