There is always hope, but you have to be willing to fix yourself - and do it only for you.
One of the tenets of AA is acceptance..... Acceptance that everything happens for a reason, what's done is done, and only you can change you.
I was a binge away from losing my wife and young son before I truly admitted I had a problem and sought help. I was lucky - I didn't end up losing them. I know that it seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, that there is no reason to have hope, but I would disagree with you. Like the phoenix that rises from the ashes you too can emerge as a better person. Does that mean that your wife will be with you? Don't know, but you need to be willing to accept (there's that word again) that as a possibility otherwise why even try?
Being in AA is a great first step and it helped me (and continues to help me) get sober and content with my life. I wish nothing but the best for you, no matter what happens. Remember that you can't do anything about the past and can't control the future, so just worry about today.
Peace
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