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Hello Ian,

There are many people here who have lost partners and jobs...everything.
All I can say is that if your wife does go, don't give up
You have to look after yourself; get yourself sorted out. You say you're not an alcoholic, but there is an obvious drink problem which you will have to address.
MWO is a wonderful place. It has helped me and many others truly appreciate how not alone we are.
There is lots of advice and help from people who have similar issues to you.
Perhaps if you can show your lady, over time, the man that you want her to see, things may turn out the way you want.
I am still a work in progress and I don't mean to preach.
Please stay with us.