Net,
This is a poignant post for me because of my husband remarking on my drinking.
He said "Normal people can't drink that much, EVER."
I think I finally got it.
Normal people don't throw down 6-10 beers, 1 - 2 bottles of wine, a pint of whiskey, whatever.
Because normal people simply do not want or LIKE (this was really hard for me) to get sh*t-faced. "Normal" people like a glass or two of wine, or a couple beers, or a couple mixed drinkes. The rest of us want more. Much more. (In my case, enough to be blacked out and gone.)
Depends on how far down the road you have gone.
Sorry. This is not the answer you were looking for and I completely understand the slant you are coming from. Not drinking unless it is a "special" occasion and then you can do what you want. So, like New Year's Eve, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Easter, Thanksgiving (depending on what country), Independence Day (diff for countries), Holiday this, holiday that, vacation this, vacation that. So and so's birthday, or bar mitvah, (bat mitvah?), communion, consecration, umm, whatever religion, whatever circumstance.
I am not saying that is where you are. I am saying that that is the road you can go down if you are not careful. Extremely careful.
I am not putting down "modders" at all because those who have just found themselves in a rut and not truly alcoholics can moderate. It takes work, but it is doable.
For the many of us on this site that are truly alcoholics (however you want to define that term, not going there and NOT doing that) moderation is not possible. Several of us have found that out after many months of sobriety, and even more have found that out after many YEARS of sobriety. Once "we" start drinking again, it is only a matter of time, that time not being long enough to get us to really old age, where we are back in the saddle, drinking hard and killing ourselves.
Darn. I didn't mean to post such a long post here and usually don't to those who are trying to mod. I usually have a "hands off" and let them figure it out approach. Unlike AA where they say "do or die." No, it is not do or die. Many can mod. Many more cannot.
Why? We don't know for sure yet. Until we do, those who are testing the waters are playing with fire. Some get burned and some get great marshmallows. I wish I could tell everyone which one they are...
Love,
Cindi
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