Hi Red. You've already gotten great advice about NOT drinking, and also about figuring out what YOU want to do in addition to understanding what your husband has in mind. I just wanted to post to say I think I understand how very much this hurts, and it's also potentially a HUGE upset to the rhythm of your life - who wants to go there??? Completely sucks. Been there - and at a drinking time in my life when I DID turn to AL in a big way. Let me tell you, AL will NOT help you at all with a solution to this problem. Not one time or 100 times with AL.
Nothing in life is so bad that drinking won't make it worse.
I hope you can find a way to sort this out while sober. I really do believe that will produce the best outcome possible.
DG