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What will really be to me is if things go well, and they actually follow through taking him BACK to that god awful place for the night and then do it all again tomorrow. I'm sure my Mom would be more than happy to make a quick trip into town to get his stuff and sign some paperwork and just leave Dad be at home where he wants to be. Funny...I've thought several times that it seems as though he's in jail. I'm sure my Mom could just walker him right out of there and take him home without their permission. But I suspect there might be medicare repurcussions or future treatment problems or something.
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DG, it very much felt to me (and to my mother!) as if my mother were in a jail when she was in the "very nice" nursing home. She was/is not a "wanderer" but was locked in, could not go outside without an escort...
I inquired once, while she was there, about the medicare repercussions if I were to just want to take her home... they told me there would be none... But I ended up keeping her there until we had a diagnosis and treatment plan, and caregivers in place (although of course she has now sabotaged nearly all of that). BUT I think it is a different story about "future treatment options." If the elderly parent OR the family members are considered too much trouble, or uncooperative, or whatever, they can just make the decision that they "cannot meet [your] needs," if you ever try to get the parent admitted again. And if you try to go to another facility, they will insist on seeing the records from all other previous facilities... And that scared me considerably, because odds are very high that I will be in a situation once again, sometime down the road, of needing a nursing home for my mother.
I do hope it goes well today.
wip