Janice, my situation with my own mother is very similar. I brought her home, she was "OK" for a week, then it went to hell in a handbasket. Sometimes there are no good choices, only a stab in the dark for the "least bad" of them, and that is hard to sort out, too. I don't know where your brother is in all this, but I can see that you are taking on TOO MUCH of the responsibility for a "good outcome." There may very well be no "good" outcome. There are many of us living within that reality, with elderly parents.
I decided a month ago that the only way this situation could get worse would be if I kept drinking. I hope you can see that, too.
best wishes,
wip
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