[nancy]

I think you just need to regard this as par for the course with a drinking problem. It's an unusual problem in that socializing often involves alcohol, so it can be very difficult to quit, along with all the personal reasons that make it tough. But then alcohol turns you into an extremely anti-social person with no manners and no inhibitions. I think you need to remember that the person you are while drunk is not the real you, with manners and consciousness and checks on behavior. The real you underneath is still a decent person.

This humiliaion is a big part of the problem and probably the main reason why people want to quit. You could use this as a negative motivating factor to quit, but don't let it infect your self-esteem. You badly need your self-esteem to get over this problem.

In terms of what other people think of you. Some will be more understanding than others. How would you view a terribly drunk person? If it were me, honestly, I would have compassion. Take that compassion and turn it toward yourself. People who mock drunks are not worth much in my opinion.

There is a strong element of choice in all this. Once you realize that, these incidents will be a thing of the past.