Hi Donna,

One thing that I have learned (took me long enough) is that when people say hurtful things or are rude and inconsiderate, it says more about them than it does about me (or you).

Another thing taught to me by a very wise friend, years my junior, is "if it smells bad, don't step in it."

Sounds to me like the things your "friend" says are toxic - I'm not suprised this person benefited from all your support and kindness over the years. Suck up the support and then spit it back in your face with some negative statement. Perhaps you are seeming a little too healthy these days? Maybe so-called friend needed to drag you down a bit.You don't need that.

You have accomplished what few people have. Not many who love to drink find their way to abstension as you have done. You have supported many on this board and are looked up to by many.

So, maybe don't step in her stuff next time she calls -
Pansy