Mod encouragement?

[Sillygrits]

Well, I thought I had a plan. I was gonna drink 2 beers, water, 2 more beers, water...

I thought I was in control but I think I really upset me mom and worried my boyfriend. Its been the first time they have seen me drink more than 2 beers since my rock bottom day 1 month ago.

I feel ok this morning physically but I feel like I let everyone down. I just hate not being "normal" and having another struggle to face throughout my life. It just gets very discouraging.

Anyway, I guess what I am asking is did any of you have set backs during mods and were you able to move on? Just feeling a bit down this morning.

[paranoid]

Hi, it's been awhile since I have been on. I can relate to what you are saying though. Yes I did have a set back yesterday and I don't know how to get past it either. I didn't go way overboard, I would say I had 3 glasses of wine and then once home I had a few more. Which all together was about one bottle of wine myself. I really don't feel too bad except the guilt and the tiredness.
I am going to start by making myself get up and do all of my regular routines and I will go and workout and get past it.
I need to find a way to be around my friends without it turning into a drinking fest. I love my friends and want to be with them, but it is starting to get out of control again. I know that my husband will be mad at me for worrying about it, because I didn't technically do too much wrong. But I just don't like that feeling of being a little fuzzy about things. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you are not alone and that you just need to jump back into the right swing of things and this will blow over.

[Sillygrits]

Good to know I'm not alone. I understand about the fuzziness.....it sucks to not remember everything you do. We both will make it through....do you take any medications to help with cravings?

[paranoid]

I am not taking any supplements at the time, but I do want to get started. I just need to find a way to not get into the situation of having excessive drink around. I don't drink when I am alone, so that's not the prob for me.
What are you taking?

[Sillygrits]

I'm currently taking Chantix to help with cravings although I'm not sure it is helping a lot. I feel off the wagon again last night. I do drink alone which is a big problem. I like to hide my drinking so that my family and friends don't have to worry about me. However, no matter how hard I try to hide it I end up getting drunk and someone finds out. ARGH!! I am thinking mods won't work for me, or at least not for a long time. I just can't seem to stop one I started. I am thinking of ordering the Kudzu and L-glutamine.

[treeman]

SGrits,
Hang in there.....
I needed to go 30 AF so that I knew how to act being without a beer. Remember this is a change in lifestyle for you. You don't just forget how you did things before, it takes training and re-training.

I have found the Gaba, l-glute to help with the cravings and urges. But these are subtle. I still needed to think a lot about my decisions. I still don't put myself in situations where I am destined to fail. I think that is the biggest accomplishment towards Moderating for me: I realize how I can fail and I make a decision not to. It's fun to boss myself around.

So, Grits. Find what will work for you. But stay on top of it and control your own life.

[Croft]

I too have to stay on top of it. I can't let my gaurd down ever.

[Larry]

I need some advice on reducing my drinking. It is getting out of control

[Maisie]

Sillygrits, having AF beer around has helped me in moderating.* Red wine seems to be my downfall.* I think I have a plan and then after the first couple of glasses it falls apart.* But I've been able to stop before it gets to a full bottle.* I know I never would have been able to get that much control back without this site.Larry, I'm too new to offer advice, except to say this place has been a god send and given me hope and some self-respect back for the first time in a long time. Glad you are here.

[vlad]

I have times like this too, it happens. I'll go several months modding quite happily and then screw up. I had a time recently were we'd been down to my mother-in-law's for her birthday. As usual she'd insisted on buying a crate of beer for us (I make a rule of not buying crates at home) so of course I drank a lot more than I should have done - not discounting the fact I'd taken a bottle of champagne down too. Woke up Sunday morning (no hangover though) feeling quite guilty and feeling that I'd upset my hubby's mum. When my husband asked if I'd enjoyed myself I explained I felt uncomfortable about the amount I'd drunk - my husband said to me 'You didn't drink that much and you didn't seem drunk and you didn't upset my mum - why do you feel uncomfortable?'

I did feel a little better when he said this but I just knew I'd drunk more than I'd wanted to and I'd let myself down!!!