Start Bac today

[Hoping for the best]

night went all right, think I woke up a few times, then my daughter was up around 1:00am with pains in her belly so I was up with her for about an hour than got up at 5:00am and went to the gym for the first time. Is it too soon to set a goal for 30 days AF? I know after a few days, I will probably start to feel like I have it under control and I can just drink one night to celebrate but need to keep telling myself that I cant do that anymore.

[christyacc]

Just keep telling yourself you can't. I always get to that stage and normally cave. I try set goals of I won't drink today and go from there. I am only at day 3 though.

Good luck !

Ps. Where are you in Canada?

[Hoping for the best]

Hey Christyacc,
Thanks for the note. Day three is better than day one. I am in New Brunswick - Moncton, and you? Please keep in touch and feel free to tell me what challenges you the most to acheive your goals.
Take Care!

[christyacc]

Hi Hoping!

Day 3 is good, but only 2 days ago I was on 1!!!! I can't even tell you how many Day 1's I've had....the point is is that we get back up dust ourselves off and keep trying....one time it will freaking stick!!!!

One of my biggest challenges to help me achieve my goals is my family. I grew up with an alcoholic father, and I have always been disgusted with his lack of control, etc., and I don't want my girls to look at me like that. My husband loves me death, and wants to help me. I want him to keep loving me and not give up on me and for that to happen, I can't give up on myself.

I am in Southern Ontario. You are getting the worst of the lovely Canadian snow. We have been quite lucky thus far....knock on wood!!!!!

I would like to keep in touch. Feel free to PM me any time. I will give you my email.

Christy

[Hoping for the best]

I came home from my son's hockey game last night to learn that my wife found an empty bottle... the jig is up. she threatened to leave me if I dont stop. I told her about going on bac and said that I had already taken steps to quit but didn't tell her in case things didnt work out. I think she is quite upset mostly about hiding the drinking from her but at the end of the day, I have to worry about me. I am doing this for my health, my marriage and my family. Last night was day 3 AF.

[christyacc]

Don't you feel better that you are no longer keeping secrets? This will help you so much in that you aren't alone. She is probably hurt because you didn't talk to her about it- my female perspective. You really have your heart in this. I know you will do well.

[Hoping for the best]

Thanks Christy,
Guess I am just ashamed and don't want anyone to know... How are you doing?

[christyacc]

I'm not too good today. Having an AWFUL day at work today. Want to go back to bed where it's warm, safe and comfy. O want to have a beer after work. I hate my life. Aren't you glad you asked?

[hangingon]

Do you think the bac is better than Nal? I don't like the fact that Nal takes so long. I want to feel like I am making progress and with the Nal its like you better take it incase you might drink so then you think well....I took it so I might as well drink so it works. I am stressed and confused. I would love some words of wisdom.
Hanging

[Hoping for the best]

Hangingon,
I haven't tried Nal, I was going to but when I went to see my DR, he called a collegue that deals with addictions and alcoholism and he strongly suggested Bac. I dont know if you know my history but I was drinking every night and drinking until I blacked out. I started taking bac and within 4 days decided to stop drinking. I find I think about it alot but in the evenings now when I usually drink, I take the bac and it takes my mind off of it or maybe because I just say no but it makes me a little drowsy and I dont think about it and eventually go to bed and sleep ike a baby. If you have access to it, I would say give it a try. Do you have family pressures to quit?
Take care, it will all work out in the end. try not to feel bad about what's not working and concentrate on what is working - you're desire to quit. I am here for you.