one glass per month

[Sunbeam]

Hi all,
I have today achieved 34 AF days. I'm thinking of limiting myself to one glass of wine per month max, only on an away-from-home special occasion. Have others tried this level? For you, has it led to increased drinking (as the one-glass-per day approach did for me in the past)?

[Prest4time]

Hi Juliana!
I noticed you havent gotten much feed back here, but I want to say well done on 34 days!! That is just fantastic, and I cant imagine (seeing how I have never made 34 days) how awesome you must feel!

So my question is, what is up with "one" glass of wine per month? If I made 34 days, one glass would not be an option. It would be lets buy a bottle, and let me drink the whole thing! Why are you so confident that you will not want a second glass of wine? I think this is the area of "no man's land" when we have to choose which side we are on. Its tough.

P4T

[iAmBecoming]

Congrats on 34 days AF! That's something I haven't done since before I was 21.

I think it's difficult for any of us to say if that one drink a month would be enough to start you down the dark path again because everyone is different, but IMHO preoccupied thinking and deal making about how much you are going to drink is a sign you are still in the heat of battle so to speak. I think the people who moderate successfully are the one's who aren't already worried if taking the drink is going to be a problem. 'Know what I'm saying? I can understand that you want to test the waters. Just be careful .

[Waves 2]

on 34 days.

Looking on AL as a reward for abstention is a dangerous way to look at it.

Believe me I know. I didn't try the one glass a month but It's the frame of mind that leads us back to more.

I am finding that I can stop at 2 glasses but if I risk a third I drink until it's all gone. (So I don't buy as much.)

One glass a month is not much so you probably will be fine- IF you can make it work. MKR Mary is a good role model here. She drinks half a glass or one glass every now and again. That works for her.

We are all different. The important thing is _ make your plan and stick with it.

That's where I tend to fall down. I make a plan and break it when the triggers strike hard.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Look at the AF boards. It always strikes me how positive those people are about their new lives whereas I slip and fall and get miserable about it!

[Cinders]

dowjbw,

on the 30+ days!! Truly!!

I haven't done that since I was (omg!!) 15.

Yeah, one glass a month is great. Gives you the health benefits of a glass (I am thinking vino here) and all the antioxidants you could actually get from other things, but WHY??

However, one glass leads to another...

Love,
Cindi

[meditation mama]

Hi dowjbw!

Fantasic on the 30+days. Is it that you want to have a glass of wine now? That you want to celebrate your 30+ days with a glass of wine? If so, then I would be careful. My second thought would to be to really ask yourself why do I want just one glass of wine a month. Not many of us are satisfied with just one glass of wine, that is why we are here. So, if it were me, I would wait a period of time if these thoughts were popping into my head. I am almost 60 days and I had some pretty crazy thoughts a few weeks ago, almost rationalized drinking again, but I got through it and I am glad I did. So, again, if it were me, I would wait because, one glass a month doesn't make much sense... That is just my opinion... I hope I am making sense..

Best of luck with you decision... Either way, please stay in touch and let us know... that's important..

MM

[KateH1]

Good Job on 30days+dowjbw! One glass a month..hmmmmmmm. Nope, not for me! I know exactly what this wound do to me at day 44.....one might work for a time or two (might being the Key Word Here).......but, one would lead to two and two to three and then............disaster! I fet plenty of anti-oxidents drinking Pomegranite juice! No fear and no regrets drinking juice!!

Honestly, I am working on not thinking about AL, and, one glass for me would be like saying that I could sleep with an old boyfriend but not get involved!!LOL!

Again, this is just my decision, but to each their own! Take care and stay in touch!

KateH

[Sunbeam]

Thanks for all of your thoughts. I guess no one here has actually tried this low level of moderation. My current thought is that I can enjoy one glass of wine with my husband when he retires in April. We purchased a very special bottle of wine years ago, which we will open and also share with his brother on this occasion. After that, (at least a month later) I might want to enjoy one glass with my friends, out on the patio. But I think any amount of alcohol can be risky, and I know I don't want to go back to not being able to control my intake. Probably I could enjoy the company of my friends on the patio just as much (maybe more!) without alcohol. I have consumed to excess with these friends, but they know about my new alcohol-free efforts, and they have been good supports. The do usually control their intake much better than I used to! So I am for now continuing abstinance (definitely don't plan to celebrate any AF time by drinking). In April, I will probably have that one glass. After that, maybe I will find it better and easier to continue life without AL. Someone on another thread commented that they continue to think about Big AL for months and years even when abstaining. It is not the same as a craving because they don't actually consume (that's where I'm at now), but that thought doesn't go away for a very long time.

[hippie37]

Originally Posted by iAmBecoming

Congrats on 34 days AF! That's something I haven't done since before I was 21.

I think it's difficult for any of us to say if that one drink a month would be enough to start you down the dark path again because everyone is different, but IMHO preoccupied thinking and deal making about how much you are going to drink is a sign you are still in the heat of battle so to speak. I think the people who moderate successfully are the one's who aren't already worried if taking the drink is going to be a problem. 'Know what I'm saying? I can understand that you want to test the waters. Just be careful .

Could not have said it better myself.

Nice post iAmBecoming and welcome to you the forum (I notice it is your first post!! and a good one at that!!!)

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx

If you can stop at one glass, YEAH, I have one, then think one more won't hurt. shit, before long I am 4 days in to a binge. I just advice you to proceed with caution. Many of us moderate here, BUT many of us try moderating and end up with the hangover from hell. I wish you the best!!!! Just PLEASE take it from someone who went 7 months AF and then got cocky, thought I had it under control.......just be honest with yourself before trying it.