WHAT IS MODERATE ANYWAY

[tea]

Moderation for me is not opening a second bottle......... of whatever it is I opened..........thankfully now it is 'just' wine instead of Voddy/Gin etc - Groan - I know that's not helpful, just how it is for me.

Lxx

[Kitty]

I'm with Ripley,

Moderation for me for me is stopping when I want, versus stopping when the drink wants to!!

Kitty

[Saint Jude]

Me too

I like to be able to enjoy a cold beer or two on the river, or a glass of wine with a nice dinner.

I feel like I'm moderating if I can have a few beers on a day off without having to drink the whole 12 pk,(like the old days) ...there by missing out on my time off...

It's nice to be able to enjoy a social function and not feel like an outcast... or "one of the "diseased" sick ones...

[thought2much]

Hi Bella

I am married to a moderate drinker as well.

We go out for dinner and share a bottle of wine over the meal. I then start work on talking her into sharing a second bottle.

If she wont have a second bottle I will just hit the spirits when I get home.

I am so over this behaviour!!!! I want to be the who just once says "I dont feel like another drink!"

[YoungAtHeart]

Moderation Management defines moderate drinking as no more than 9 drinks a week for women and 14 drinks per week for men with no cheating on the size of the drink. If I could do this, I would be happy as a pig in a puddle.

[trixietrack]

Since I lead a very social life, it's difficult to go completely sober. My goal is to be able to go to social functions (once or twice a week) and have 2 or 3 glasses of wine with food, and stop there. I still have a long way to go, but I think I am on my way. Since I started with the supplements the kudzu and the L-glutamine, I have been able to control myself a little better.
Today I am sitting on my couch and there is a bottle of red wine in the wine rack and a six pack in the fridge. I have no urge to touch it. I thought of going to the local bar which has free yummy food ,movies and lots of cheap booze, but I got this creepy feeling in my belly and decided to stay home and log on. I am so happy I found MWO.

[gracie29]

Chillin, Just a comment on your thoughts on being a drunk. You're not a drunk - it's a behavior that you're trying to overcome and don't ever let people tell you different. You as a person has so many positive qualities and all you have to do is think of those qualities that makes you different from everyone esle. For me I'm a hard worker, like to make people laugh, loyal to my family, fill a home with things I love, work outside in a garden - all kinds of things. Don't get caught up in the trap of being a drunk. I did for too many years. We are so much more than that.

[Skye650]

Hi All,

Just wanting to add my bits and pieces here, moderation to me is to be able to stop at drink nr 3 ie whether it be 3 beers or 3 glasses of wine the alcohol content at the end of the day is very similar... and I am moderating by not drinking in the week at all and only allowing the 3 drinks/units per day over a weekend, hopefully I can continue to do this and even try and reduce the limit..... body definitely can feel it after a while ;0)

[Roz]

Hi Everyone,

Good topic Chilli. Moderation to me is to have 1-2 drinks and not want anymore. I'm a newbie so this is hard. I'm starting to think that this will never come to be but after reading this thread, and if I work hard at it, it could be a possibility. I do feel good that I'm not drinking 2 bottles of wine - 4 to 5 - days a week. I'm not feeling as good as I thought I would feel but I guess it just takes time and I have to wait it out. I do know, that I don't ever want to drink as much as I did. Life is too short. I also want to add that you guys have really helped me. For a good part of my life I have felt like an outcast who drank alone. After reading this thread I can see that I'm not the only one. We really shouldn't put ourselves down. We just happen to be the "lucky" ones who acquired a lousy gene (my dad and his dad). I always remind my husband how forunate he is to not have this gene. He's the poster guy for moderate drinking - I envy him. Chili- I'm trying to give myself goals (sometimes I make them sometimes I don't but I am trying). Next week my goal is to go AF Monday-Thursday and moderate on the weekend. If I find this is too hard I will try to go AF for awhile. Easy to say - right?

Good Luck

[Angie22]

I agree- my definition of moderation is being able to say, eh I have had enough, before the point of buzzdom. For some people, this is 1 drink, for some its 4.

For ME, moderation is 1 drink alone, with food, and max 3 drinks if I am in social situation (out with hubby or girlfriends), and not more than 3 drinking days per week.