Where are the moderators??

[trixietrack]

It seems to me that this website has turned more into a place for people who have serious drinking problems and are trying to get back to being healthy. (which is a good thing)

Not many here seem to just be looking for a way to prevent the consequences of abusing alcohol.

Sometimes I wish that we could have posts that deal with how to drink responsibly, how to enjoy one or 2 glasses, beers, cocktails with friends and family.

There is a lot of negative energy being focused on Alcohol. it gets sad at some points.

booze is not a living entity. We have the choice to be sickened by it, or to enjoy it like any other food.

peace

[theshark]

to be honest i think the majority of us on here have had that choice taken away from us.
there is nothing i want more out of life than to be able to drink moderately and sensibly,but seeing i havent been able to do this for the last 25 years it seems to be a bit of a tall order

[Finding My Self]

Trixie - I mod. And I acknowledge your post. I will come back later...this site is for all of us...hang in there! I have to type and then log on again to post as my broadband is down and if I type as I post on thsi dial-up, it closes down on me! (Aargh!)

I did 106 days AF and have mod-ed for 4 months successfuly.....and I realy want to carry on with the 'successful' bit if I can! So I am with you with ideas and stories needed..... I think I feel guilty posting about it as I know how lucky I am and don;t want to 'rub noses in it' but this site IS for ALL of us....

Back later! Hope you get lots of posts.!

Lvoe FMS xx

[SK8RGRL]

Yes, the purpose of this site is to do it "your" way. Everyone here is on their own personal journey... no rules, no judgement just here for support and guidance. Most of us have tried to moderate but couldn't do it. Aquarius promotes moderation and gives guidence on keeping within safe limits, but I think for the majority it doesn't work. Do it "your" way, you may be able to have a cut off point. many of us can't. best of luck and let us know your progress

[Preciouspinot]

There are quite a few of us who moderate. Some of us have been around for a few years and hang out in the subscriber section. Another reason is the mojority of the time I believe, once people really learn how to manage AL they simply leave this site because they don't "need" it anymore.

I do agree that the more recent members just happen to be ones that prefer the abs route instead. It will shift from time to time.

[trixietrack]

yep I agree with all of your comments. my point is merely regarding the fact that one can moderate.

pp. i think that I would like to stick around here to let people who would normally wait till it's too late

before educating themselves.

I am just one of those people who believes that we can enjoy everything if we respect it (nature).

[Preciouspinot]

Some people can and some can not. Everyone is different. I have seen some people get to some pretty dark places and it wasn't due to lack of respect for nature.

[whogas]

I'm a moderator-hopeful. I'm on the last week of MWO program -- didn't need to go past 75 mils of topa and it worked fine for me. So here I am on the last week. I have a glass of wine maybe once a week, perhaps not but that's what I was shooting for. I'm a little anxious about dosing off but that's what I need to do. I'm hopeful that I will be able to maintain what I've achieved here. I'm not even sure how to dose off honestly -- do I do a week of 50 mils, then a week of 25? I don't know. This is a great place to be and I'm hopeful and thankful it's worked well so far. I'll keep on this site and we'll see how it goes.

[LVT25]

Hi Trixie--
I agree, I think there are more here that can't moderate. I try to check in on the moderation threads daily even though I'm not really sure what I am. I have DEFINATELY changed the way I drink, but I still seem to overdo when I'm in a social situation. Which social situations for me are usually pretty big parties (weddings, funerals, benefits) which include all my drinking/smoking buddies. With no social events in the near future, and a nasty cold, I've been abstaining all week. I hope I can learn to go out and moderate.....I just don't know, I guess I haven't tried very hard yet. If not, I don't see me quitting drinking totally, just probably will avoid certain situations, or deal with the consequences.
Sorry if I rambled. I'll check back later...

[trixietrack]

lvt25 I did what you are saying above, I avoided certain social situations and also didn't keep alcohol in the house for about 9 months.

I also keep a picture in my mind of myself totally drunk and stupid and making no sense. this seems to keep me from going overboard.

in regards to respect for nature, I think maybe I wasn't clear.

maybe I should have said one needs to be be very aware and diciplined.
you don't eat the whole cake in one sitting, and you also don't throw back the whole bottle of champagne by your self.
little rules.