15 months ....but...

[Heavenly]

Hi all,

I am 15 months (barring a few days...) but am feeling like maybe 1 or 2 glasses or a

bottle or 2 might help... not in desperate need of help...just some support to keep on

keeping on with this...is it worth staying totally sober...I feel it is, but the other half of me

says just 1 and relax and let all the day's pressure be eased....have increased exercise but

when I feel a bit down I start eating again...(junk)

Would appreciate some long-termers advice and support....have you gone through this

and any ideas...

Thanks
Heavenly xx

[ready2change]

Heavenly...DON'T DO IT!!! 15 months is awesome!! How has the journey been for you? Has it been a constant battle or fairly easy?

What is going on that is making you think of taking a drink? I'm sure it is AL talking his BS at you, but don't listen to him. You will never lose your 15 months...but I guarantee you will regret picking it up again. From all I have read here, it is so easy to fall right back into our old pattern.

Ride this feeling out, talk it out, keep coming here, do whatever it takes...but don't give AL the time of day. What I would give to have 15 months of sobriety...good on you!!

R2C

[Cinders]

Heavenly,

No, I can't offer advice because you are way beyoind me.

However, that is wonderful, awesome, cool, neat.

I really hope someone else with more LONG TERM AF can help you. I understand where you are there. I have been there with 30 days and longer and I KNOW how hard it is when your brain is telling you "go for it."

However, do not let your head win. Your head is simply trying to make you fall back into the same old pattern.

You can beat this. You really can.

Many do. That is how you find people that are 10 years or more AF. They simply do not let their brain and their head win. You can beat this. You really can.

Love,
Cindi

[livingfree]

Heavenly - I am only at the 6 1/2 month mark - but I have a great friend and mentor who has helped me to keep focusing on the future of being AF --- He has warned me of these "HOT ZONES" to watch out for after going AF ...

5 days
90 days
6 monts
8 months
15 months
2 year
7 year

He said it is common for those who have stopped drinking to crave a drink for ANY reason during these times. Odd - but I think it's wise advice to guard yourself during these cycles.

Also - I have a feeling that we are going to have to commit on an ongoing basis to be NON DRINKERS. It really is the beast talking to you. Smile and say NO - I am not going to drink poison. Just by telling that addictive voice NO - it will go away.

Praying for you today

[Cinders]

I love what Thankful said, and I am not an AA advocate or anything like that...

Smile and say NO - I am not going to drink poison.

For many of us, AL (read that alcoholc, Alice, POISON) is the "fix."

The rest is just dressing.

AL really does want you to rejoin his race.

Do not get "into the ring" with AL. He will win. Every freaking day.


Umm, Have you ever won? If so, you can mod, otherwise, you must abstain. Not making jokes here. Making true statements.

Love,
Cindiv

[Heavenly]

Thanks...just signed back in ...feelin sorry for myself I think...am sipping the af lager (beer) ...it's good for me but just felt maybe 1 or 2 ...

I won't but sometimes it does hit me...first few weeks were hard...then around special occasions where those who didn't have a problem were drinking.... took kudzu...

I am actually in an 'ok' situation at the moment so I don't know why it has just hit me....

Thanks all.....xx

[Theme2be]

Completely understand.


Never knew of the days of danger. Interesting, because at around day 5, I succumb.

Don't be fooled by that one or two is alright voice. That is how I started. Feeling much better, back to Kick Boxing, looking clear and it is now my days off..................

Rest is predictable.


Take Good Care of Yourself.

[Gyco]

hi heaven thts neat i was where u are 22 years ago,im at almost nine months and still think of it,you could end up like i did , end up in a sanitarium,ive been as long as 2 years b4, your almost there giv or take a few days,ive found its not the time u have in,its how u deal with it,when i quitt b4 and that was many times ,never had a problem stoppin,couldnt stay stopped nor did i want to,ive also been thro AA and its good for som but still not enuf for me,i dont beleive bill got the hole concept,he did work on it till he died,but odd enuff b4 he died he asked for a drink,beleive tht 40 plus years, longer thn he drank he asked for a drink on his death bed,ive never done a lot of readin b4 i was in the sanitarium,but i do now,if u get the urge come here,send me a message send anyone a message,i hope im not preachin but i come here because i mt be able to help som 1 make it thro one more A F DAY GYCO

[Beck]

Heavenly,

Thanks for posting this. Sometimes I don't think abstainers share their difficult times enough - afraid of scaring of the newbies or something. Some people slip and others tough it out alone. Though I haven't been AF nearly as long as you - congrats btw- I understand where you are coming from.

I have been AF for 5 1/2 months and it did hit me out of the blue today that maybe I've done this AF thing long enough. I recognize that this is just the dumb part of my brain talking but still...

Liv, thanks for the info on the hot zones. Looks like I'm already in 6 month zone.

[tlrgs]

hi heavenly i am i will be 9 months sober next sunday and to tell you the truth i have no need for al
and if i did i know what would happen all over again and i know the outcome not good and i know it .. so i would say no.. dont do it.. its not worth it ..i would rather drink my tea any day after a long hard days work ..yeah it hard at times but you have to take the good with the bad ..and just enjoy how you feel now ..and remember one leades to 2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 ..
peace , love and god bless