The Abstinence Pledge or ODAT?

[retteacher]

Hi Everyone: I think I want to wade in on this one again. I think ODAT applies to the daily struggle of just not drinking for today. In my mind though, I have to know that I won't be drinking any more, so ODAT is the daily footwork. It's what I have to do every day. I'm not sure if that makes sense or not.

Mary

[Teardrop]

Hi janice,

just catching up on reading...
glad you open this thread janice...
still learning....
Tkeene.... your right i do feel lucky to have read this thread.

Thanks Love

Teardrop.x

[Doggygirl]

Wow - Janice this is an awesome thread - thanks so much for starting it.

I really appreciate each and every response. Thank you bear, renegade, Fallen, Thankful, Mary, T, MOW, Charlie and Teardrop.

One thing is clear for me - this is a mind game that has a common theme with some variations. It's great to have this community to gather up all the good ideas and have lots to try.

One thing I know from my falls in the last 6 months - I can NOT entertain thoughts of Mods or Just One or any of that. That fantasy won't fly here.

Janice, I have Sober for Good but had never read it. I pulled it out a couple days ago, but haven't gotten very far. Have you finished it yet? Just wondering if you think it's worth the read!

DG
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[Janice]

Doggygirl, to be honest I read it all the way through when I was AF May last year....now I keep dipping in and out of it for motivation...it's sort of become my bible!!!!

[Doggygirl]

Originally Posted by Janice

Doggygirl, to be honest I read it all the way through when I was AF May last year....now I keep dipping in and out of it for motivation...it's sort of become my bible!!!!

Thanks for the feedback! It just made the top of my reading pile.

DG
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[FloridaBoy]

Bear,

Great post. It gave me a lot to think about. Ditto for the replies. I was not at the door of death but if you know you cannot control you drinking...you will be knocking one day. I am
and what keeps me from drinking is the fact that the hangover last a lot longer than the buzz.

FB

[tea]

Bear, thank you, thank you, thank you for that post. I don't have words right now...

Lxx

[MDBiker]

This is a good thread Janice. It am glad to see someone get something out of what I have learned from experience. In acutallity, I really do live ODAT, but what I have learned about ODAT is not to worry about the future, and don't hold regrets about your past. Today is all we have and we might as well live it like it is our last day. I believe in the saying "yesterday is gone, and tomorrow may never come." I know we have to take care of our responsibiities...pay bills, buy groceries, etc. But we can be thankful for the day God has given us, and live "today" as if it is our last day. Live, love, and dance; life is a blessing and was ment to be lived to the fullest every day. living life on life's terms isn't easy, but it is simple.

I do love you all, and wish you all the best.

bear

[KateH1]

This is a great thread. I can relate to what many of you have said. MOW, like you, when I first came here, I played with the idea of MODing....I made up a bunch of rules for myself. Only drink when out to dinner. No "Red Wine", something in that makes me crazy! No more than two drinks per day, with one day off every two days.............Each rule worked, but, only for a short time! Then I decided to do the 30 days AF and go from there! My first try at 30, ended up with drinking a bottle of wine on day 28. I began again the next day........Like, Bear, I am now a non-drinker, for nearly 90 days! I do not count days, there is only one rule......I do not drink!

I am so grateful and happy to be a non-drinker!!!!

Thank you All!
Love,
XXXX Kate

[Janice]

I can relate Kate...this time round has been so much easier simply because I have accepted abstinence. Janicexxx