i can say no..but...

i can say no to cake,i can say no to crisps,i can say no to burgers/hot fresh bread/hot chips/chocolate/icecream/cookie dough...whatever...WHY cant i say no to a drink?Beer/wine/spirits/shots...what ever is going in the round-im IN!so sad,i even look at other people and think to myself "I bet they dont have a hangover"every morning.How pathetic can you get.Hmmm :(

Hi mj,

I had to laugh (with you, not at you!) about looking at others and thinking 'bet they don't have a hangover'. I can remember lots of mornings at the shops, feeling like death warmed up, actually being resentful of people for looking so healthy and happy! The nerve!!

You are not pathetic, just trying to fight something that has a fairly strong grip. Everyone here is, or has been, in exactly the same situation, trying to overcome a problem with alcohol. The fact that you are actively taking steps to remedy your problem deserves a huge pat on the back. There's nothing pathetic about facing a reality and dealing with it! You will find lots of support here - a great bunch of people happy to lend an ear and help where they can, so take advantage. You'll be surprised at how much easier it is when you can be totally honest with like minded people. I mean, seriously, I spent so much time hiding how much I drank, it was incredible to find a place that I could let it all hang out! (Bad mental image there. LOL)

Take care , I'll look forward to watching your progress.

Cheers

Kate

Well mj, you're making me hungry!!:b And I don't usually even think about food till around 11:00 or so... I might just have to go make that cheesecake I've been threatening to...It is raining here, after all.:rolleyes ... OK AB Lounge first... then look out!
Yeah, I've always looked at people, and thought...It must be nice to be "normal" and not have this 24-7 urge or craving,(little voice in my head), wondering where & when the next drink is gonna be....
Just to have that freedom to enjoy yourself, and not have that "nagging" thought that you're missing something.:rolleyes
I don't feel that much anymore.:D

This board just keeps reinforcing that I am not alone. I cannot tell you how many Sundays I have been at church and had the same resentful thoughts looking at other people wondering if they can tell I have a hangover and why don't they? I, too, am very good at resisting junk food, etc., but the glass of wine is something that just pulls at me every afternoon. I am finding the supps to be helping, though......

I can totally associate with all you are saying. I am the same with food - I barely ever eat cakes and lollies or junk, my diet is pretty good - until I get over the limit with my wine and then, look out pantry - I'll pig out like the best of them. That's when I really hate myself. But again, you know those people who can have a wine or leave it - they probably can't say no to a cream cake. We can't understand why we can't say no to a wine, but they probably have the same sort of problem, different substance. But it is great that we all recognise it, that's a first step, and now to be able to share with others the difficulty of getting the life we want, is also great.