Falling Apart...what now????

[Evie.Lou]

I felt so good about my soberiety.I even thought that I was setting an example for my addicted brother and his friend,that have been staying here.The no AL rule seemed to be working until I just saw them out on the porch with a 12 pack.They have to go and I have to tell them.My husband would do it but I have hidden behind him long enough.How could I be so stupid to think that I have any control over anything????I feel like I was just kicked in the gut.To be totally honest,I want to go join them.I really,really want to drink right now.

[Bambi]

DON'T! You are an insperation and I look up to you! You have done this!

[caysea]

This is a time to be selfish Tell them to take the party somewhere else .You are working to hard to fall for this .I am not going to get into their actions .Either they leave or go for a walk and remove yourself from the trigger.NOW

[Bambi]

Please remember what you went through...how hard it was! It will be that hard again and/or harder. Keep sober, do it for you!

Kick the brother and friend out now! Do it now! Show them the way...the right way!

God Bless and take care!
Together we can do this!
Hugs and Love,
Bambi

[Accountable for Me]

Don't drink Evie. It will make you feel like poo. You have been so proud of your sobriety to date - stick with it.

You won't be setting a good example for your brother or his friend if you go and drink with them. Take the high road. Tell them to go elsewhere and drink it.

[Bambi]

Dear Evie,

I found this quote that you wrote on 5/28 at 5:25pm my time (central, usa time).....thought it might help!


"It is soooo great to be sober.Never forget how bad it feels after a drunk.I wrote myself letters to read if I am ever tempted to drink again.I was so desparate angry and sick... sick ...sick!!!! I never want to feel like that again.SOBERITY equals BLISS to me.....EVIE"

[cedar]

evielou - sending you all the strength you have sent to SO many people here and multipying by 1000 - thats a lot i think ??
loads of love to you ... one very special person
ced x

[KateH1]

Evie, Listen, this is really a gift from the Universe showing you that you do not have "control" over your brother or how he chooses to live his life. You have been beating yourself up over letting your mother down on the promise she asked you to make to her. You did not let her down. You did your best and you have continued to do all that you can. But, your brother is a grown man, he makes his own decisions and you cannot make him do anything. Frankly, I am disgusted with him for disrespection you and your husband by drinking at your home, when he was asked not to. Evie, none of us, can stop anyone else from drinking. That is a personal decision. All we can do is support somone who has already made that comittment. Your brother has not done this yet.

You set a good example for him to follow, he chose not to follow it. Whatever you do, do not drink over this. You must not drink for YOU. If you drink you will only hurt yourself again.

Please think about this!
xx Kate

[Tiny]

Evie -- think of my downer of a post from yesterday... you can do it!!!!

[hippie37]

Originally Posted by caysea

This is a time to be selfish Tell them to take the party somewhere else .You are working to hard to fall for this .I am not going to get into their actions .Either they leave or go for a walk and remove yourself from the trigger.NOW

Simply put but exactly what I would of said but in a rather long winded kind of a way!!!lol

Evie. As caysea has said YOU are the most important person right now and staying sober has to be your number one priority BY WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY. If you can't handle being around others who are drinking then take yourself out of the equasion. In this case circumstances warrant that you ask THEM to leave. I slipped last time due to feeling like this that i felt I was missing out on something and my thinking spiraled out of control. It's not worth it hun take it from me. Been there done it about 6/7 weeks ago.

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx