Help

[gabby1go]

Hey all,

I wrote a long letter to all of you and lost it. I need help. My DH is done. Picture this "an attracive girl, 43, married, beautiful home, great family, great life, slobbering, passed out, and my husband comes home". If I am going to have an affair can't it be with a much younger hottie. Not some guy that sucks the life out of me and steals my soul? Help. G.

[bestlifeldms]

Originally Posted by bestlifeldms

I was right where you are. I finally knew my husband was SERIOUS! He had supported me and loved me through everything, but had had enough. When I looked at what I had to loose and compared it to where I was headed, it scared me enough to set me on the path to sobriety. Plus, I was a nasty drunk. I said very hurtful things when drinking, which damaged my personal relationships even more. They are healing now, thank God!

Someone posted a statistic here about a week ago that 40% of alcoholics die from alcohol! Stagering! It seems that I thought those things only happened to other people. DUI's, lost jobs, ruined marriages and relationships with kids, friends and loved ones, health problems and death. I think that when we realize, it happens to us, too - that is when we get serious!

Hugs and support, Best

Hi Gabby!

Above is a reply that I posted just a couple of days ago. This is a common place where we find ourselves. For me, it took showing my husband that our life together meant more to me than alcohol. I also understood that he would not believe my promises and I asked that he would allow me enough time, (once more) to show him through my actions, that I was committed this time. Thank God he did. There is a foundation of love that still exists, then we must rebuild.

I pray that you will be given the strength that you need to do this. Keep coming here for support!

Hugs, Best

[buckledown]

oh how i understand....i have been there too...the family looks like a pretty picture to all those who dont know...but in reality i was a train wreck before i quit drinking...i am free now but know exactly how you feel...there is a fabulous life waiting for you on the other side...without alcohol...i will be thinking of you and yours today...keep posting and make a decision to do something...you CAN do it... it must come from you...big big hugs...xx buckle

[gabby1go]

well folks. just confessed all. He has no trust in me. Told him about this site. He knew the supps I was taking (he was wondering about all of the pills). I guess we think we are smarter than we are???

[livingfree]

Gabby - Sometimes it takes the risk of loosing it all to reach the "bottom". For those who don't call this the bottom - they will look back and realize that this IS the bottom. There is no other bottom ~ we just wonder around the basement of that bottom if we don't end it here.

You can do this sweetie - I have all the faith in the world that you can do this ... if I can do this you can too. I am well into my 6th month AF - and know without a blink that I will never drink again.

You are ready to do this - PM me anytime.

[Gyco]

yo all read a few posts just returned frrom a sanitarium drugs alchohol perscrips. that was my last resort found out a lot, after what i learned , do i want to drink, dont no but i dont try to dwell on it they give you a different perspective why do you drink think about it,cant tell you my hole story but i can tell u i inherited what i got its not even contagious to you just to my own kids maybe 5perceent chance they can get it a desease of addiction and you all inherited it doesnt mean yyou cant drink or drug moderate if you can but chances are you will eventually find yourself where i went also known as a mental inst. some didnt beleive it but thats what it said on the front of the building i wish all you readers well and i truely do mean that if you can moderate do it and enjoy each other if you cant dont have great day

[Evie.Lou]

You can get sober...I know you can !!! Have you tried Antabuse?You can not drink when you take it (that is not true with the other supps.)It may give you the needed time to change your mind before you drink...Once you are sober,you will be able to rebuild your life,so getting sober is the first step.Everything else comes into place afterwards.....Evie

[gabby1go]

Thanks for all of the support. I have been AF before and just need to get a few days under my belt. I know I can I just have to do it. No excuses this time.