help for newcomer

[hickorywind]

I'm trying to figure out how to send messages - hope maybe this one will go through.

I have been drinking, hidden, for way too long. I hate it but can't convince myself to stop. How do I do that?

I feel so guilty - like I'm cheating on a wonderful husband, ruining my health, destroying my mind and all the rest of that stuff. But there's that moment that feels so good. How do I stop? What do I do?

I've read a number of postings and you seem like a wonderful group of people. Please let me join, and please help me.

Thanks.

[louise]

Welcome hickory. Have you ordered the book? You can read alot about the program on the home page. When I joined, I ordered the whole program - book, supplements and hypno cds. Then I did not open the box for 6 months because of feelings similar to yours. You have made the 1st step, which is admitting a problem. Next is to read a lot here and to realize that alcohol dependence is progressive and will just get worse if you don't do something. Soon you will decide that the lovely feeling after a glass or 2 is not worth the shame, hangover, etc. And once you stop for a while, you will feel so much better about yourself that that becomes more important than that 1 hour of feeling good followed by yuck. Best wishes.

[time2change]

Hickory
Welcome. So many of us have felt the exact way you do. Please stick around read, post and you will receive tons of support and advise. I can honestly say that I could never had made it this far without the support from this site.

[tlrgs]

hi there and welcome.. this is a great place for support and learning the best way for you .. just give it your all ..it is not easy but doable . remember you are not alone ..just give it your best and dont give up .we are here for you

[Sheepish]

Hello Hickory
New myself- so no advice but just a welcome and a note that you have found a good spot
-Sheep

[CS04]

Hickory,
Welome! Download the MWO book -- you can read it over an afternoon or evening. It will make a BIG difference.

We all are in the same space. It's OK. Stay with us.

Love,
CS

[sweetpea]

Hickory

You are in the right place for loads of support

As already said by Louise read the book, take the sups etc but also read as many posts as you can and stay close to the boards. There is always someone around 24/7 if you need support

This site is wonderful and I don't know what many of us would have done without it

Take care

Sweetpea xxx

[Lucy Van Pelt]

Hickory-

Welcome. You are in the right place. I too was a hidden drinker. Would hide it from my husband, my family, my friends. But couldn't hide from myself. Yes, the immediate high is a wonderful thing, BUT, we know inside it is not worth the big picture...the hangover, the guilt, the self-disgust.

Welcome!!

Beth

[magic]

Welcome Hickorywind,

I always try to remember that that moment when it feels so good IS just a moment and a fleeting one at that.

Like the others have said.......we all know the 'moment' is not worth the many moments of pain that follow.

Sober days are crisper and clearer and, in time, will contain many of those 'moments' for you.

Sheep is correct. This is a good spot. Mark it with your X and stay a while.

magic xxx

[hippie37]

Hey H

Welcome to the forum. I can only reiterate what's already been said. The best thing I found was to jump straight in and start posting about myself and the struggles I was having at that time with quitting. No one here judged me or mollycoddled me or anything like that. I got sound advice and found a warm and loving online community that was prepared to help me through bad and share good times with as well. Yes get serious about your problem and start laying the foundations for a solid sober future but don't forget to smile along the way too!!.

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx