need help

[poohbear]

need help finding a detox facility - my husband will be home soon. He will be disappointed in me - I need help finding a facility. I have tried to find a rehab place and was told that the waiting list for women was the end of april. I faxed the admission paperwork to them and havent heard anything. I found a counselor but she said she would only help me if I was in a treatment facility. I told her that I tried but that the only one that would take my insurance had a waiting list for female rooms. I feel stuck. I know I havent been on this forum for awhile - but I am reaching out right now. I am really trying to reach out for professional help and feel like I am hitting brick walls. I know ultimately it is my choice to stop or not. I bought the book "Terry My Daughters Life and Death Stuggle with Alcoholism and am reading it. What am I trying to say? I don't know except I am truly just reaching out for help. I hope when my husband gets home he will understand - that is all i can hope for.

thank you in advance for ur help

Pbear

(my name is Joy by the way)

[Hammer_OTG]

I wish I had an answer for that. I don't know any way (other than looking on the net) to find a facility either. Maybe call your doctor or local hospital to recommend one? I'm sorry you are hitting a wall with this. That is incredibly frustrating. Hang in there--I'm sure other people on this board are way more knowledgable & will have better suggestions. I wish you lots of support.

[nancy]

Hi Joy

I truly hope you are doing ok.

I don't have a lot of info about rehabs but I suggest you sit tight and there could be a lot more answers when people in other time zones get up.

Cindi is one of our most experienced members and might be able to help.

Although I am not that experienced in this area, I would advise you to calm down for now. Try not to worry too much about the hubby. Although you may feel ashamed, you have a problem and you will get help. He is important, but actually, you are the key to your own success beating this, not him. HE could fade away and you would still be there.

Also, the end of April is right around the corner! Its not that far away. Get some sleep and advice from My Way Out I am sure will be coming! One of the most insidious things about alcohol is that it increases depression and anxiety, yet seems to be a cure for those things. If you understand this, you will be a big step ahead because you know you will feel better in a few days if you abstain.

Take good care of yourself in the next few days.

Nancy.

[Popeye]

You're doing all you can do to get help Poohbear.
Your husband must see that.
You have my best wishes.

[FloridaBoy]

Originally Posted by nancy

Hi Joy

I truly hope you are doing ok.

I don't have a lot of info about rehabs but I suggest you sit tight and there could be a lot more answers when people in other time zones get up.

Cindi is one of our most experienced members and might be able to help.

Although I am not that experienced in this area, I would advise you to calm down for now. Try not to worry too much about the hubby. Although you may feel ashamed, you have a problem and you will get help. He is important, but actually, you are the key to your own success beating this, not him. HE could fade away and you would still be there.

Also, the end of April is right around the corner! Its not that far away. Get some sleep and advice from My Way Out I am sure will be coming! One of the most insidious things about alcohol is that it increases depression and anxiety, yet seems to be a cure for those things. If you understand this, you will be a big step ahead because you know you will feel better in a few days if you abstain.
Take good care of yourself in the next few days.

Nancy.

I agree with Nancy. If you can stay AF for the next few days you will think more clearly and
the end of the month will not seem so far away.

[greeneyes]

Hi Joy, What a great name!

I'm on board with Nancy. Call them and make sure they got the fax. Sometimes what you think went through did not due to computer problems on the other end. Good luck and let us know how you're doing.

[Cinders]

PoohBear,

I have to add my agreement to all those before me.

Call the facility. Ask to be put on a waiting list in the event someone cancels or leaves AMA (against medical advice) let them know you are serious. That holds a lot of weight. Many of these places are filled with people who have to be there due to court order, etc. They truly appreciate those who are serious and want to be there on their own.

One other thing to consider is the route I took. I checked into the hospital - not rehab - and asked to be detoxed. Call your hospitals and see if they have that kind of thing. It is only three days. It is safe withdrawal. I simply needed it becaues I could not seem to get the gumption up to quit on my own. Once the sweats and shakes started, I chickened out and gave in. Of course giving in meant one or two bottles of wine or vodka.

I had my doctor prescribe Antabuse before I went in and asked for the doctors at the hospital to give it to me on my last day there. I took it and walked out the door KNOWING I could not drink or I would get seriously sick.

I take it every morning, PoohBear. I pop my Nexium and my Antabuse. They sit by my bed. I smile every time I take it.

It works well for me and my psychiatrist says I can take it long term and should do so.

It helps with that mental issue of "just one, can I, I want it so badly," and I can now look AL right in the face and laugh at him when he shows up.

This does not negate the need for counseling and psychiatric help, but it has gotten rid of the haze and the horrible merry-go-round of drinking and being blacked out. I am sober and I can think my way through my problems and talk to my counselor with a clear head.

Call around in your area and see if there is such a thing at your hospitals there.

Best of luck, Joy. We all know the place you are in right now.

Remember, you are a good person with a horrible addiction. You can beat this addiction and you will. Keep your chin up and do whatever it takes.

Love,
Cindi

[Cinders]

PoohBear,

One other thing. I went to rehab in November. I did well and when I got out did pretty well but did not do the follow on therapy.

When I started traveling again, I relapsed. Yes, big time.

So, that is when I finally decided to go into short term detox and start Antabuse.

I am telling you this because I want you to understand that this is not an easy thing to beat, however, I was determined to beat it or know I was going to die. It was that simple. My point is, never give up giving up. You may fail once or twice, or even more but if you keep trying you will finally succeed.

We are worth it!!

Love,
Cindi

[LVT25]

Joy, I don't have any advice, sorry, I just wanted to let you know I care, and will pray you find the help that you need.

[more2life]

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