I've ruined my life

[kriger]

Sorry for all your losses, IanC,
What is the quote..."it's always darkest before the dawn". If you have stopped drinking and continue on that path you may see a sliver of that dawn very soon. Try not to push your wife-show her with the changes she will see in you-they will be more than obvious very soon if you stay AF. I know this feels like the worst time of your life but there will be much "personal growth" when you come out the other side. I will send positive thoughts your way. Kriger

[Gyco]

ian i here ya,till death do us part,i love that quote,my wife put up with same from me,but i got violent not with her,just violent,not knowing what to do,i lost it,ended in a sanitarium,made sense at the time,but i got more than not drinkin,kinda like math,figure it out,some people arent ment to drink,some people can moderate,but the 1st question i asked my wife when i got back,even tho i no she cares for me,is if i started again would you leave,i hope to think i wouldnt was her answer,still havent drank ,but how much should one put up with,the coin has 2 sides good luckgyco

[Carmac]

Hi Ian,

You are hearing (seeing) alot of advice here. It's a great place to come.

But there are some realities. When we're alcoholics, we're not happy. Neither are the people around us. But we matter. We really matter, both to ourselves and them.

Will your wife be there when all is said and done? Maybe, maybe not. Sounds like she is going to be taking care or her right now and that's a good thing. SHE needs that right now and I am confident you want that too from just your words.

But now it's time for you. For Ian to be concerned for just Ian. The place you are in right now is not good. Period. But it is where you are. I highly suggest AA. The hardest thing to do is that first step into a meeting. And maybe that first one won't click with you so try another, and another and another. I happen to go to ao women's meeting and I swear, while there are tears and we are very serious about being AF, the laughter as we laugh at ourselves is contagious. WE UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL and have found hope in desperation......real desperation.

It will get better.

Keep writing and we'll keep helping at MWO. You can count on that.

Erin