Newbies Nest

[heathersame]

Hi All,
I am new so just thought i would try a HELLO and say if I am doing things right

[one2many]

In the same boat here Larry...I would rather give birth than have sex..and anytime I did, I used to get wasted so I wouldn't care, this has gone on for 8 years since my son was born and I cannot see it getting any better...especially sober, In fact we had another row today when he came in at lunchtime and tried playfully to grab me...of course turned into a huge row...I can totally see where he is coming from but I cannot help it.....would even rather if he would find somebody else.

[A Work in Progress]

Heather, welcome, you are "doing it right" in that you have successfully posted a message! Why don't you start a new message ("new thread") in the "just starting out" section, and tell us a bit about yourself, so that people can get to know you and answer any questions you might have?

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[DeeBee]

Hello all,

Sorry I haven't posted today but don't really have anything to tell. The day started off with a bang and I was patting myself on the back all morning for not drinking at dinner last night and WHAM all of a sudden I am feeling weepy, tired, miserable, the start of a headache and generally KAK! Sorry for being a downer as I don't normally post unless I am in a good place, but today has been blahhh!

Looking forward to tomorrow, a new day.

Hope you are all doing just great!

Dee

[nanlovesdogs]

As everyone has learned from you , Dee, you are supposed to post here when things are not so great. That's why we are here.

You are doing a great job! I can't wait to congratulate myself for not drinking at dinner (or before, or after!). Keep your eye on the prize!

[vera-b]

Good Thursday nesters,

Ala and O2m, your intimacy issues are a toughie. I'm no bed gymnast, but it's not an aversion. I've seen those couples therapy sessions on Oprah where they send the couples to some spa. Of course it solves all of their intimacy issues and they can barely stay off each other when they appear on the show. What I want to know is do they keep that up once they get home and face the kids, the laundry, the fatigue, etc.? I always thought the guys have a distinct advantage with their anatomy. Always figured our general horny-LESS was God's attempt at birth control. Just a theory at this point.

Now as to our abode. I know it's commercial, but I've always wanted to live in Cinderella's castle. Could we just try it out on a weekend? I'll skip past her housework years, and just be beautiful and sing with the birds and mice.

Must sign off as we're leaving at some ungodly hour tomorrow to take our youngest back to school. Still some packing to do. Won't be online again until Monday, so I'll miss everyone. Enjoy a wonderful weekend and I'll see ya'll when we get back.

Vera-b.

[Rosey]

Ayla, sounds like you really have a trigger that you need to deal with somehow. I too have much less drive than my boyfriend and it does cause fights with us. I think it is a problem for alot of us women. But it if it makes you want to drink... I dont know. I am no expert and have no answers. I do feel for you and am always here to listen. Congrats on day 10 and the weight loss. I know your scared but you can do this.

Dee Bee, sorry about your weepy day. Hope today is better.

Drive safe Vera B. Cinderalla's castle sounds wonderful.

Welcome Heather - look forward to getting to know you.

Hope all is Ok with you Wally.

Not much new here. Getting ready for company.... you know clean clean clean..... cook cook cook. Hopefully will be too busy to think about booze for a few days. Topa going fine, hopefully as you said DeeBee it will kick in at a higher dose. At least no ill effects at this point. I tried to listen to the clearing CD before bed last night, but I fell asleep. Does that still count? I went down the stairs, escalator and elevator and then right to sleep. Oh well, maybe I better try it standing up next time. Well I have much to get done. Hope all is well with everyone. Take care.

[DeeBee]

Thanks Nan! Today is better, I feel stronger and more positive. I just got whacked by insecurities yesterday for no apparant reason... ain't being female a bitch!! I am waiting for some test results from my Doc and I think it got to me that I haven't heard from her yet.

Vera your post make me giggle... bed gymnast LMAO!!

How is everyone this TGIF???

[aylalarry]

Hi friends...fell off the wagon yesterday after fighting with my H about having sex. I told him I didn't want to and he got very upset and wondered if it was because I was having an affair or if I was gay. He said " A husband should not have to ask his wife for sex !! " He has been " patient " with me. I would hate to see what inpatient looks like. Anyway I was so agitated, frustrated after calling a friend for a Xanax ( without success ) I had a glass of wine to calm down so that I could sleep before my night shift. I feel like crap that I don't yet have a better way to deal with upset. I am going to see a counselor to rehash the whole childhood/young adult sexual abuse issue ....again. As with you O2M at times I wouldn't mind if he released himself with someone else. Anyway, sorry to ramble. My happy forward motion was abruptly halted yesterday. I start anew with all the inner strength I can muster. To all the newbies, may the source of your strength grow and grow and may your sorrows and weakness shrink to nothingness. Peace.

[one2many]

been there done that larry, I have had soooo many rows over sex too.......hubby says he should not have to ask either, I just feel like giving him a sharp slap with a wet fish and telling him to watch the playboy channel..I feel your pain...pm me if you need a shoulder.

We are not talking either, so I am gonna sit on here all night and play music.....he can sit in the other room and do...whatever lol