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      It really gets harder and harder to quit- I wake up in the morning depressed- I go to work come home and am just I think clinically depressed. I have no desire to do anything- even just lying in bed on a day off bothers me. This holiday season was so hard to put it all together. Do you know what most women have to do to make it all happen- decorated the outside of the house- put candles in the window- send out all the Christmas cards- buy all the wrapping, the food etc... You really have to think ahead!Have the time to get my daughter from college- Yes I have that grueling drive into NYC to pick her up at NYU. Prepare the perfect dinner for Christmas Day with a daughter that doesn't eat red meat..Son hates ham...And no-one wants turkey 'cause we had that that at Thanksgiving! What the fck?! Who ya gonna please? This is why I drink. Well- one of the reasons- but the end of the year is hard- plus everyone's birthdays are in December and January. Except mine. Rant done.
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      Hi Fluff,

      A womans work.... It is really hard work preparing Christmas and we don't even do Thanksgiving (I am in UK) so I really feel for you, I am very early in my quit (day 41) and struggling with the whole concept of being AF this Christmas, sending you ((( hugs))) and hope you can find the strength to give quitting another go
      One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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      Thanks Madon- Something weird happened- I woke up for the first time feeling " normal" not depressed or anxiety ridden- I think this is my day to start this new quit.
      It's always YOUR choice!

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      Hi fluff, how did your Day 1 go yesterday? Yep, a woman’s work is never done they say. And telling you that not every household is like that doesn’t help because that’s the way it is in your household. There are some days that I feel the weight of the world on my shoulders as well, but I know it’s nothing to drink over. The day will pass and tomorrow will be brighter.

      Your kids are hard to please? Who said you had to please them all the time? It’s up to you to get the house ready for Christmas, try cutting back on what you do. Be thankful that you have healthy kids who love you. Be thankful for what the Christmas season is all about, there’s no need for all the bells and whistles to make it more joyous. But above all, think of yourself, get some time in for you and think about what makes you happy. Sure, drinking will take away the problems for a short time, but that’s not real happiness. I know how much you love music, and when I read your post a song came to my mind, Ricky Nelson’s – Garden Party. You can’t please everybody, but you got to please yourself….

      Hang tough, you’re a wonderful woman, you’ll be able to do this….
      Quitting and staying quit isnít easy, itís learning a whole new way of thinking. Itís accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...

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      Aw thanks!
      The thing that stresses me out is this holiday season! I'd rather be on on beach somewhere without even thinking about it, to me it's just a farce and I've never believed in it- even when I was a kid- I knew it was all a lie. And now the lie continues- to my kids like we all do. But they know better now- they're in their late teens- early twenties. So - what , we continue the fake music and retail crap? Ugh.
      But if I said any of this to my family and friends I would be thought of as a pariah. I don't believe in Christmas- it's not even when Jesus ( if he really did exist ) was born. He was supposedly born in September- but they changed it to the winter solstice.
      I think I get stressed out due to the fakeness of this holiday. It doesn't mean anything to me- but I still have to go thru the motions.
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      Fluff, I know that a lot of people don’t believe in the real meaning of Christmas, or the commercialization of it. Even saying “Merry Christmas” is politically incorrect now, but to heck with them, I still say Merry Christmas and always will. But if you don’t believe in it, why not just make the season “Peace on Earth and Goodwill Towards Men” men being a general term of course. Why not donate some time at your local food bank, or helping serve Christmas dinner at a homeless shelter? Even our small town hosts a free Christmas dinner for those less fortunate. By helping them you are helping yourself, seeing firsthand the things you should be grateful for, and knowing that you did something good in a season where doing good is a great way to show appreciation and gratitude.
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      Quitting and staying quit isnít easy, itís learning a whole new way of thinking. Itís accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...

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