14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

[StraightLines]

It's five am on a sunday morning here, and I've just woken up (ugh, anyway) - today is two weeks of sobriety and I'm feeling pretty proud. I look at a month at a time as a big goal and to think I'm half way there makes me content.

Yesterday afternoon for a good 7 hrs I was at a neighbours gathering that usually I would of brought along two bottles at least - yeah I did bring along two bottles - of water The social scene was heavy with drinking and laid back and comfortable and not once did I wish I was drinking.
The hosts are good friends of mine and the Hubby has a habit of not only drinking a lot of beer, but in a joking way encouraging me to "go on, have a drinnnnkkkk" when I'm on a non drinking binge - talk about pressure! Of course he doesnt know how serious it is for me to keep away from drinking, I just feed him the line of not being able to drink until I lose this weight, but he kept on and on "one wont hurt, it's so funny you not drinking!" and so on. It didnt upset me infact it made me more determined. I like challenges. I could of caved but I refused. Not like that.

Why is it though I feel like I have drank this morning? No ill effects but I do feel because of the setting and the socialising and conversations held it was one of those times? Old habits die hard.

[dexterhead]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

:happy: :happy: Straight!!!! Yippee for you!!! What a huge hurdle indeed. Damn you are strong girl. you inspire me!!!

[Shikakai]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

That's weird you mention that. I'm on Day 10 today and when I woke up, I too felt as if I had "tied one on" the night before... very strange...

Anyway, proud of YOU! Super duper duper proud! I know that couldnt' have been easy. I like your weight excuse too!

Congratulations on half a month! I can't WAIT for 30 days to come around... I'm going out to CELEBRATE!

Do you guys think other alcoholics are jealous of us because we STOPPED? HA! :H

I'm sure that is where a lot of the pressure comes from too. They know they need to stop but don't want to give it up anymore than we did, but one day they may come face to face with consequences that FORCE them to give it up just like I did.

Do you think that other alchis feel "threatened" when one of us leaves "the table?" Hmmmm... it makes me think they are threatened when they encourage you to drink when you've said NO!

Misery loves company, eh?

[StraightLines]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Thanks guys for your encouragement - it really means a lot, gives me strength! I try to be strong because I just cant do this to myself ever again, I was halfway dead if not just about there.

Shikakai, I think you have a point there, he particularly always wants me to drink with him, drink more, hassle me when I'm not drinking.....I dont know why he does this but perhaps you are right in him feeling the pressure that I'm not there to be his long lasting drinking buddy at social events - the more I say no the more he keeps on and on. Dunno. All I know is he isnt going to break me!!!

[Shikakai]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Good girl... yea, misery loves company. He know he needs to stop; he probably wants to stop, but can't seem to find the power to; his life is probably spinning out (he hides it though like most alchis do) and he's scared that he may one day have to drink alone if more people decide to give the booze up and he doesn't want that...

I so hear you about being half-way dead. I can't believe the parallels of our lives we all share.

Nope, don't crack!

[Deena]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Way to go Straight Lines, not only did you make it through a L O N G social event, but to do so with your partner actually encouraging you to drink is phenomenal. I think a lot of us have partners who are the opposite way.

Good for you!!

[lookingforhope22]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Hey SL - good job!!! that must of given you a high in itself (saying no and sticking to it). These occsasion make us stronger. It must of been v insighful to see everyone else at the party get intoxicated over the duration while you are sober and fully aware....they say the sober person at the party has the most fun.

Congratulations on your 14 days - stay strong! before you know it you will be AF 30 days

[Reenie]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Straightlines: Good for you on making it 14 days AF and for not caving into the pressure of the social gathering last night. I can relate to waking up feeling as if I drank the night before. I've been sober now for a little over 7 months. I still wake up feeling as if I drank the night before. Sometimes I dread lifting my head from the pillow as I wake up thinking I'm hungover and have a headache. Then I have to think hard about what it is I've done the night before and soon realize that I didn't drink at all, and that maybe it was just a dream. As time goes on, people will stop pressuring you to drink. They won't even bring it up. And if anything, they admire you for giving up drinking no matter what your reason is. Keep up the good work! -Reenie

[BELIEVE]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

Definatley a good job on the 14 days, that was a big milestone for me as well. Even better you made it through a social scene without drinking. Big congrats are in order. Keep it up, we're all rooting for you.

[tlrgs]

14 Days and overcame a huge hurdle yesterday!

hi there..straightlines. great job . i have been there myselfang the good thing is that most of my friends know about my drinking problem.and yea ones ina while they mess with me but they dont take it too far. but am ok being around people drinking now anyway great job. and hey be true to yourself and may one day you can tell them what you are trying to do for yourself is to make a better you but hey thats only me