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    Im 37 mom of 3. Have been drinking for last 10 years. I drank all through high school started at 13. I quit at 19 for years only had the occasional drink. Then at 27 I met a group of people that I just went wild with. Drinking until I blacked out or threw up 3-4 times a week. After meeting my boyfriend of 4 years, I slowed down, I only drink at home now and no more throwing up or blacking out, but I do drink about 1/2- 1 bottle of red wine a night, I don't even usually feel drunk, I usually realize the next day that I was a little buzzed, but I don't even get a hange over. The other night I told my boyfriend "I don't feel like I'm gonna die when I drink, I just feel normal" he thinks there's a problem there, and he's a drinker- about a 6 pack a night. All I know is all my life I've felt like there is something physically wrong with me and I only feel normal and healthy when I drink. I only drink at night and I never miss work. I don't know, I'm scared to say I have a problem, I'm not sure I do.

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    not even sure I want help...

    Hi gofigerr,

    I'm reading a book called "Under The Influence" by James R. Milam, Ph.D. and Katherine Ketcham. This book has explained to me what alcoholism vs. problem drinking means as no other thing I have researched has.
    Highly recommend it to you. It might help you see just where YOU are at. It sure helped me make some decisions.
    Take Care,
    Helen

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      not even sure I want help...

      Thank you, I've seen other posts recommending the same book I'm big on reading, I read everything, I'll be picking it up today

      thank you

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        #4
        not even sure I want help...

        You have to decide for yourself. What would happen if you didn't drink at all for a couple of nights?

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          Every night I have a different reason why, even before my I leave the parking lot at work, there is always an excuse. I'll make a goal of nothing Sunday or Monday and see how it goes. At leat I'll get a chance to see how I feel.

          Thanks
          Gina

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            not even sure I want help...

            I had a long talk with my boyfriend Saturday morning and he told me he's a little grossed out by my drinking. It felt good to have him say it, he drinks, but he said he used to finish his beer long before I would finish my drink, now he's just keeping up, and some nights feels like he's waiting for me to finish my bottle before I get in the "happy place" the drinking used to get me to after 2 drinks. I didn't have one drink last night, I spent the whole night playing cards with him (as he drank) and enjoying a great meal with no wine. My first day with no wine in I can't remember because it has literaly been years. I'm going to give it a month with no drinking and then I'll try only on the weekends or only on his days off. I just feel like I have to do the month first or I won't be able to do the weekends only right now if that makes sense.
            Thanks to all that post here I'll be here every day I know.

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