Hi Kath,
Thank you so much for your reply (also via ez-mail, I appreciate it). It feels like everybody else has already given up on me on these boards, but than again that could be paranoia caused by the guilt of acting foolishly when intoxicated.
Have promised myself not to post on these boards after I have had a drink though, as I really feel I could get much needed support and advice here and importantly contribute some too.
Anyways am over it. I have got a question for you all; Is anybody doing the program (topa-vita-exercise-etc) with their partner?
The reason I ask is that my partner, after waking up this morning after yet another christmas function/lunch which resulted in a massive binge and return home at 2.00 a.m. as opposed to the promised time of 8.00 p.m., declared that he will also start on this program.
Is he kidding himself, am I kidding myself for being hopeful?
I have to explain, though, that his drinking patterns are not (almost) daily like mine, but that he has terrible problems at trying to drink moderately ones to twice a week. Consequently, if he is at home (as he travels a lot for work, 3 weeks out of 4 these days not including the weekends) I will participate in the drinking sessions and my total alcohol intake increases enormously.
It is like we edge eachother on almost.
Overall we have a great relationship, I think of him as my soul-mate and life-partner and he thinks the same of me.
He has also supported me in the past when I have tried new medication and/or counciling by cutting out drinking completely. He seems to be able to that quite easily for a few weeks until he gets a bad urge to really trash himself. Ofcourse our relationship is ten-fold better without the booze and we both realise that our communication suffers from the alcohol abuse.
That in mind, would that be enough for us to do this together or is it better to just focus on me and my alcohol problems so as not to (possible) be dragged down?
Any advice is appreciated!
Indy
PS: Kath, I will get my liver tested before commencing on the topamax in January.....makes perfectly sense to me to do that.
Thank you so much for your reply (also via ez-mail, I appreciate it). It feels like everybody else has already given up on me on these boards, but than again that could be paranoia caused by the guilt of acting foolishly when intoxicated.
Have promised myself not to post on these boards after I have had a drink though, as I really feel I could get much needed support and advice here and importantly contribute some too.
Anyways am over it. I have got a question for you all; Is anybody doing the program (topa-vita-exercise-etc) with their partner?
The reason I ask is that my partner, after waking up this morning after yet another christmas function/lunch which resulted in a massive binge and return home at 2.00 a.m. as opposed to the promised time of 8.00 p.m., declared that he will also start on this program.
Is he kidding himself, am I kidding myself for being hopeful?
I have to explain, though, that his drinking patterns are not (almost) daily like mine, but that he has terrible problems at trying to drink moderately ones to twice a week. Consequently, if he is at home (as he travels a lot for work, 3 weeks out of 4 these days not including the weekends) I will participate in the drinking sessions and my total alcohol intake increases enormously.
It is like we edge eachother on almost.
Overall we have a great relationship, I think of him as my soul-mate and life-partner and he thinks the same of me.
He has also supported me in the past when I have tried new medication and/or counciling by cutting out drinking completely. He seems to be able to that quite easily for a few weeks until he gets a bad urge to really trash himself. Ofcourse our relationship is ten-fold better without the booze and we both realise that our communication suffers from the alcohol abuse.
That in mind, would that be enough for us to do this together or is it better to just focus on me and my alcohol problems so as not to (possible) be dragged down?
Any advice is appreciated!
Indy
PS: Kath, I will get my liver tested before commencing on the topamax in January.....makes perfectly sense to me to do that.
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