I have been reading through some of your stories, and I am struggling with an alcoholic partner, but I do have a story for you all. Apart from my partner, I have never had direct experience with alcoholics in my family, no-one (that I know of anyway!) has had alcohol problems. Except for one friend of mine...
My friend had an alcoholic husband. They had one 3 year old child. His drinking was so bad, he pee'd the bed, regularly, was abusive etc. He was a school teacher, and their marriage was awful. So, she was "pushed" into the arms of another man.
They divorced. But the day she left, was the last time her husband had a drink. He went to AA. He became an excellent father to his child, regular access, and lots of fun things they did together. They had to sell the family home and both were able to buy smaller, two bedroomed homes two streets apart, so contact was good. They have been separated for about five years. I know she still loved him, and it was obvious he loved her.
About eight months ago, my friend came to see me, as we hadn't seen each other a while. She walked in, and I was shocked to see she was about five months pregnant. By her ex-husband! I cried when she left. They now live together again, with their TWO children, and although I'm sure they have bad days, they were obviously meant to be together.
This is an absolutely true story, and I thought some of you may find it helpful.
My friend had an alcoholic husband. They had one 3 year old child. His drinking was so bad, he pee'd the bed, regularly, was abusive etc. He was a school teacher, and their marriage was awful. So, she was "pushed" into the arms of another man.
They divorced. But the day she left, was the last time her husband had a drink. He went to AA. He became an excellent father to his child, regular access, and lots of fun things they did together. They had to sell the family home and both were able to buy smaller, two bedroomed homes two streets apart, so contact was good. They have been separated for about five years. I know she still loved him, and it was obvious he loved her.
About eight months ago, my friend came to see me, as we hadn't seen each other a while. She walked in, and I was shocked to see she was about five months pregnant. By her ex-husband! I cried when she left. They now live together again, with their TWO children, and although I'm sure they have bad days, they were obviously meant to be together.
This is an absolutely true story, and I thought some of you may find it helpful.
ray:
?We are one another's angels? 
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