Busy day here yesterday in Absville. In the busy of it all two things stand out to me about yesterday. So I thought a good topic for this mornin could be askin for, and receiving help.
Its ok to ask for help.
One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member, our Higher Power, or the appropriate resource.
We don't have to struggle through feelings and problems alone. We can ask for help from our Higher Power and for support and encouragement from our friends.
Weather what we need in information, encouragement, a hand, a word, a hug, someone who will listen, a ride, we can ask. We can ask people for what we need from them. We can ask God for what we need from God.
Its self-defeating to not ask for the help we need. It keeps us stuck. If we ask long and hard enough, if we direct our request to the right source, we'll get the help we need.
There is a difference between asking someone to rescue us and asking someone in a direct manner for the help we need form him or her.
We can be straightforward and let others choose whether to help us or not. If the answer is no, we can deal with that.
Its self defeating to hint, whine, manipulate, or coerce help out of people. It is annoying to go to people as a victim and expect then to rescue us. It is healthy to ask for help when help is what we need.
It is also a blessing to help others. We who are eager to help others can learn to allow ourselves to receive help. We can learn to make clean contracts about asking for and receiving the help we want and need.
For me its hard to ask for help on things. Mostly I just would rather do it myself. Or I am anal and think no one can do it like I can or as good. Or I don't want to be a bother to someone and show my weakness and vulnerability. Or I may not want to let them in my world and askin for help would be setting that up down the road. I could go on and on as we could all give a ton of excuses. But refusing help from others makes you become a bit of a martyr. (everyone loves those guys) You deserve that help and plus it makes life more simple. Plus it deprives the goodness in others that they want to give you. And it deprives you of the good feeling that it gives you that people care about you and want the opportunity to do something for you that you need instead of something they have to think up and take the chance that you dont like it.
Anyway....the power in asking and receiving help was exhibited today in abs. For
Lou Lou. And it had a good outcome in so many ways. Everyone is sharing the joy and hope to come from it. She let her need be known and Bambs was able to be there for her.
Then there was the sad part. There was a hurt heart that wasn't able to ask for help, for unknown and probably understandable reasons that many of us would have simulated.
So the need never hit the surface and as a result no one acknowledged it. So now the heart is even more hurt and now everyone shares the sadness and regret with that outcome as well. So you see the power is all of this.
Very big Wow!
And its these sort of things that happen mixed with the blurr of alcohol we all would miss completely.
In my opinion this has been a learning experience for us all. What do you all think? Gabbs
Now I am ready to go now I bet you guys are glad. bye.
Its ok to ask for help.
One of the most absurd things we do to ourselves is not asking for the help we need from a friend, a family member, our Higher Power, or the appropriate resource.
We don't have to struggle through feelings and problems alone. We can ask for help from our Higher Power and for support and encouragement from our friends.
Weather what we need in information, encouragement, a hand, a word, a hug, someone who will listen, a ride, we can ask. We can ask people for what we need from them. We can ask God for what we need from God.
Its self-defeating to not ask for the help we need. It keeps us stuck. If we ask long and hard enough, if we direct our request to the right source, we'll get the help we need.
There is a difference between asking someone to rescue us and asking someone in a direct manner for the help we need form him or her.
We can be straightforward and let others choose whether to help us or not. If the answer is no, we can deal with that.
Its self defeating to hint, whine, manipulate, or coerce help out of people. It is annoying to go to people as a victim and expect then to rescue us. It is healthy to ask for help when help is what we need.
It is also a blessing to help others. We who are eager to help others can learn to allow ourselves to receive help. We can learn to make clean contracts about asking for and receiving the help we want and need.
For me its hard to ask for help on things. Mostly I just would rather do it myself. Or I am anal and think no one can do it like I can or as good. Or I don't want to be a bother to someone and show my weakness and vulnerability. Or I may not want to let them in my world and askin for help would be setting that up down the road. I could go on and on as we could all give a ton of excuses. But refusing help from others makes you become a bit of a martyr. (everyone loves those guys) You deserve that help and plus it makes life more simple. Plus it deprives the goodness in others that they want to give you. And it deprives you of the good feeling that it gives you that people care about you and want the opportunity to do something for you that you need instead of something they have to think up and take the chance that you dont like it.
Anyway....the power in asking and receiving help was exhibited today in abs. For
Lou Lou. And it had a good outcome in so many ways. Everyone is sharing the joy and hope to come from it. She let her need be known and Bambs was able to be there for her.
Then there was the sad part. There was a hurt heart that wasn't able to ask for help, for unknown and probably understandable reasons that many of us would have simulated.
So the need never hit the surface and as a result no one acknowledged it. So now the heart is even more hurt and now everyone shares the sadness and regret with that outcome as well. So you see the power is all of this.
Very big Wow!
And its these sort of things that happen mixed with the blurr of alcohol we all would miss completely.
In my opinion this has been a learning experience for us all. What do you all think? Gabbs
Now I am ready to go now I bet you guys are glad. bye.
I've always had a hard time asking for help in my life--a combination of pride and fear of being rejected and feeling even worse if I asked and was refused. I learned so much after I was divorced, when I was depressed, broke, drinking too much, and sometimes worrying about how the heck I'd even get my mortgage paid. I HAD TO ASK FOR HELP! My mom and sisters helped me. What a turnaround!! I was always the big sister, full of wise and sage advice! It really brought us all closer ultimately! But I wouldn't have been able to climb out of that particular hole without them! But first I had to be honest with them about what bad shape I was really in!! Ouch!! That was soooo HARD for me! But that's what it took.
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