friday 31 may af daily

[bear73]

blimey - where is everyone - day 1 for me of focusing on one big goal and being kind to myself(still day 5 AF though). It feels odd, like I am quitting - it makes sense though. Switching off to voice that tells me 'I'm not that bad', 'just have one' etc etc.
The word is YET. Apart from anything else I have anxiety and depression that virtually disappears when I stop drinking.

Still got cold lingering on but one day to go at work before three day weekend - being kinder to myself there too. Lazy eve tonight, takeaway and booking holiday,tomorrow cats' annual vet visit and pottering in garden and house tidying and lovely friends for dindins - she knows truth about me and alcohol. Sunday rollerderby game and then food/drinks at team mate's house after - they're not big drinkers,lots of people driving so good for me to do some healthy socialising. Monday = SPA DAY!!

Happy Friday everyone.

[Mick]

friday 31 may af daily

mae everyone..well here we are famous Friday again...that is for us folk up here not the ones standing on their heids down under..they've already started...
and hows everyone today? Its 7 am and the big yellow thingy is in the sky...also got some nosey neighbours hanging over the fence!!weather was pretty rubbish yesterday and the ground was really marshy so felt it a lot in my legs

tea and coffee on the boil

Morning bear...and hows you today? I think you are trying to do too much at once......and you focus is getting too diluted..as TT says why not concentrate on one or 2 things at very most and do them first? you need to put yourself a wee plan together of how and what you are going to do ..its not really a lot of good just saying right thats it and hoping for the best...why not incorporate 2 things together..for instance quitting al ..and getting fitter....
for al thats it no more drink ...replace it with other fluids....whenever you get the crave write it down and either go for a walk ,do step ups/sit ups/press ups jog on the spot whatever till it goes.challenge yourself to see how many you do in a day etc..it becomes a goal..I know.when I had a stroke.(and I know I harp on about it but it sort of changed my life!!),in hospital I couldnt write ,couldnt use left hand properly, walk or talk properly (Scottish..still probably cant!!!)I forced my self into a routine 8 times a day I made myself write something, read out loud to myself,do hand exercises and walk ..that eventually turned into 450 steps and walking upand downstairs twice each time!!!In the end when it came to do the tests and physio they just chucked me out!!
What I am trying to say is integrate them and make it into fun which it will become in time...the challenge of the goal will take over

Evening TT Hows you today?had a good day? any plans for the weekend?have a good one

Hiya Ky..hows you mate? yep pretty sure when I went to skool 4x4 was 16!welcome for the help..offers there for you mate ..going swimming this morning then meeting up with my old boss in the service.....he was at Garth and the Farms ..so no doubt it will be a box of "when I " time!! dont forget..Kuya time and you know where I am

Hiya Cinders...hows you today?glad to hear your oh is in lot less pain See its the expertise the finite detail of all the things that you have been doing for years that he is trying to show you!!!!My wife thinks the same about me..phrases like "why dont you bugger off and play in the garden spring to mind!!!"Glad all is well

Mornig Lav ..brewtime ..and how are you today?how was your trip..ok I hope Pretty sureppqp put a jinx on mine..ok going ..on the way back there had been an accident..lorry fire and it had melted the road surface on the motorway ..2 lanes shut while they fixed it One serious traffic jam,and to make things worse..as you drove past you could see about 4 guys working and 6 hanging around doing nish!!!One guy was obviously studying for English highers and was doing his homework....reading the bleedin newspaper!!!
Any plans for today? kid sitting? have agood one

Morning PPQP ..see Lavs post for road trip!!!!how is you today?want some porridge? Ive put walnuts and soya milk in mine...the soya milk was Kys idea..and I like it better than dairy now!!!any plans for today?have a good one

Hi YAH YAH and hows you today?any plans for weekend ?cmon you must be doing summat
whatever it is have a good one

Morning SF.......Kerching!!!!you win the prize!!!! your phrase sums it all up ...sack the word try!!well done you

Right peeps off we go into the weekend take care..stay safe sober and sensible ..well that ones a choice really!!!

Just decided ...ITS CRAP ELEPHANT JOKE DAY........if you know any then get them on the thread!!
/>Why does an elephant have four feet?

Because six inches isn't going to satisfy a female elephant.

How do you stop an elephant from charging?
Take away its credit cards.

What was the elephant doing on the road?
About 5mph (8kph)

What is large, grey, and wears glass slippers?
Cinderelephant.

Why did the elephant fall out of the tree?
Because it was dead.

Why did the second elephant fall out of the tree?
It was stapled to the first elephant.

Why did the third elephant fall out of the tree?
Peer pressure.

Why did the tree fall down?

It thought it was an elephant.

How do you get down off an elephant?
You don't, you get down off a goose.

Why was the elephant depressed?
He felt very irrelephant.

How many elephants can you fit in a mini cooper?
Four. Two in the front, two in the back.

How can you tell if there's an elephant in your refrigerator?
There's footprints in the butter.

How can you tell if there's two elephants in your refrigerator?
When you close the door and the lights go out, you can hear giggling.

How can you tell if there's three elephants in your refrigerator?
You can't quite get the door shut.

How can you tell if there's four elephants in your refrigerator?
There's a mini cooper waiting outside.

Why do elephants paint their toenails red?
So they can hide in cherry trees.

Ever seen an elephant in a cherry tree? No? It's working.

Why do elephants have flat feet?

From jumping out of cherry trees.

Why do pigs have flat noses?
They don't jump so good.

How do you know if an elephant is under your bed?
Your nose is touching the ceiling.

Why do elephants have trunks?
Glove compartments aren't nearly so stylish.

Why are elephant feet round?
To fit on lily pads.

Why can't you walk on lily pads between 4 and 6 pm?
Because that's when the elephants are walking on the lily pads.

Why are frogs so short?
They walk on the lily pads between 4 and 6 pm.

Why are elephants large, grey, and wrinkly?
Because if they were small, white, and hard they would be an aspirin.

What's the difference between an elephant and a plum?
Plums are purple.

What did Tarzan say when he saw a herd of elephants coming over the hill?
"Look! A herd of elephants coming over the hill!"

What did Jane say when she saw a herd of elephants coming over the hill?
"Look! A herd of plums!"
Jane is colorblind.

The nosey neighbours

[YoungAtHeart]

friday 31 may af daily

Sounds like you have a nice weekend planned, bear. Just remember to keep not drinking front and center.

Mick, I had missed that your stroke was that serious. Your determination to improve sure did pay off. I hope you have fun with your mate today. You didn't mention that your nosey neighbors were so good looking.

Just found out last evening that my youngest sister has a bleeding ulcer. She is going in today for a test so the doctor can determine if he can treat her outpatient or whether she needs hospitalization. It's been a tense 24 hours.

Anyhow, I'm just going to be helping my daughter clean up her place this weekend, as her landlord is going to start showing the place to new prospective tenants. Next weekend, she is going to come help me paint and get my new office ready. I've definitely decided to move my office into my home. I want to get all my billling done today, too. So I'll be busy, but not horribly so. It will be just right.

Hiya and hugs to all to come!
:l
YahYah

[treetops]

friday 31 may af daily

Nite nite all Been watching movie. Have a great day or sleep for us folk standing on our heads:H:H. Never tried that way to cure insomnia:eeks:

[Guitarista]

friday 31 may af daily

Yo!

Rock n roll! Had my skates on all day, and now time to chill.

Have a magnificent day or evening everyone. Hi Yah! Hi TT!

Love the pics Mick. Thanks.

L8tr.

[Lavande]

friday 31 may af daily

Good morning Abbers,

Slowly coming back to life here, coffee is good

bear, I hope you have a nice weekend & mostly I hope you remain focused on your #1 priority!

Mick, love your pics this morning! My four legged neighbors are the best
It's never pleasant to witness road accidents & the resulting traffic jams. EMS workers do often look like they are sitting around, doing nothing.......I'll have to ask my son about that :H
No plans to watch kids today but you never know
I did have a nice time yesterday with my girls & even bought my grandaughter a cute sundress

YahYah, I think it's great that you are moving your practice! You'll save lots of time & money & the commute can't be beat!
I hope your sister is OK & can be treated as an outpatient - hospitals can be funky places these days.

OK, I'm off to Curves & to deliver the tons of cookies I've made for the bake sale tomorrow. I hope the majority of the cookies are purchased by the general public & not the Curves members - for obvious reasons :H

No mulch moving for this girl today ~ way too hot outside!!!
Have a great day everyone!

Oops! Greetings TT & G!

Lav

[porqoui]

friday 31 may af daily

MAE ALL...

Late, late checkin for me. Followed my son downtown so he could drop off his truck for repairs. Am I ever grateful I don't work downtown anymore. :wow:

Hope everyone is doing ok...will have a proper read later....PPQP

[YoungAtHeart]

friday 31 may af daily

Wow, quiet here today!

[kuya]

friday 31 may af daily

MAE..... I have to go back in time to catch up.

Mick ..... My ex was at the farms for ages, can't remember if I told you his name.....will PM you. Don't think he worked at Garth though.
Thanks for the offer of help Mick......am hanging in there though!

It is my daughters BD today so must dash and do!

Have fun y'all

[Lavande]

friday 31 may af daily

Greetings kuya, PQ & Yah Yah again!

It has been a quietish day here.
I've been watching the news about more tornado activity in Oklahoma, Missouri & moving into Illinois - geez
Just hot & humid as hell here but I won't complain.

Mick, do your horse neighbors chew on your fence?
I always notice the horses around here idly chewing on fence rails.....sometimes I think they are bored or something :H

[TheSunFlower]

friday 31 may af daily

It is quiet. Bear you can not start a thread on the abs board like that. Once you are sober long enough....you will realize how that is not ok. You seem to still struggling.....and I think you should move to Newbies Nest.

I may gander and post about that.....but.....I do not think you are real abs land.

[Determinator]

friday 31 may af daily

Aloha Friday ABerooos!

just a quick AF cheer to all as i wind down from a big work day.

for those looking for a non-dairy alternative I'd highly recommend almond milk over soy. you can also easily make your own almond milk much cheaper than buying it.

off to check chat

be well everyone

[bear73]

friday 31 may af daily

Sorry if my post upset anyone/caused probs - it would really help me to know/how/why.i wasn't posting about joys of drinking - but my conflict about being AF as I BS myself as I haven't had awful things happen YET. I was posting about my commitment to just being af and letting other goals go for now - and that it feels odd.because it does, i know it's right but it feels odd.

sunflower - i really want to understand how is it not ok for me to post here. I thought this was a thread where people came to for support/input on our struggles?I've always posted here.

Yes I'm not 'totally in abs land' - that's why I'm here to get support/ideas on how to deal with/manage being in conflict.

PM me if it's easier so we don't clog the thread.

[treetops]

friday 31 may af daily

Hi Det - almond milk is not a cheap alternative here - almonds are very expensive unless one grows one 's own (but that decades).
Also the cheaper almonds in the supermarkets are often rancid - and I think some may be treated.

[treetops]

friday 31 may af daily

I think we had a discussion a while ago about 'rules' and posting on this thread and I think we were pretty relaxed about things - as long as respect etc is maintained.

I personally don't have a problem Bear, with you articulating your dilemmas and I hope what we say is supportive. There are several on this thread who are a trying to be AF - but have doubts, or what some call 'slips' or even hard-out binges. Even for those who are long term Abbers - 'there for the grace etc etc go I'.
I know it could me expressing those doubts next week - although I would expect you all to really kick me up the bum:H

So I am cool about being inclusive and supportive. I did see a new newbie post on Saturday's thread - but I see this person has been given direction on other threads.