neifile
June 8th, 2013, 09:52 AM
I am in a situation and I am not sure what to do about it. I have been dating a man, who very obviously drinks a lot, for about three months. Whenever we are together he drinks - it varies between 5 drinks to 2 bottles of wine per day. In three months, we have not been together one day when he hasn't had a drink (and we spend 3 -4 days a week together) He admitted to me that he takes Naltrexone, because alcoholism runs in his family, but he does not seem to moderate his intake.
I am debating breaking up with him but am hesitant because there are no apparent negative side effects to his alcohol dependence. He is sweet, kind, and stays present in our time together. He has an amazing job (owns his own very successful business for the past 17 years) and is brilliant and interesting. He doesn't get sloppy or sick and his alcohol use doesn't affect our sex life. We have great conversation, he is generous and thoughtful and makes me feel beautiful and special. He really is an amazing amazing person.
I am not sure what to do - I know that it will always worry me that his alcohol use will cause him to spiral out of control or affect his health in some way - but other than the fact that I can see he drinks, what I perceive as, too much, there doesn't seem to be any negative effects of his drinking.
Is it possible for a person to drink "too much" and not be an alcoholic? Should I care about him drinking "too much" when there are no obvious negative effects on me or our relationship? What's my problem with this when it seems pretty obvious he can handle it? Should I just wait and see? (these are mostly rhetorical questions)
:new:
I am debating breaking up with him but am hesitant because there are no apparent negative side effects to his alcohol dependence. He is sweet, kind, and stays present in our time together. He has an amazing job (owns his own very successful business for the past 17 years) and is brilliant and interesting. He doesn't get sloppy or sick and his alcohol use doesn't affect our sex life. We have great conversation, he is generous and thoughtful and makes me feel beautiful and special. He really is an amazing amazing person.
I am not sure what to do - I know that it will always worry me that his alcohol use will cause him to spiral out of control or affect his health in some way - but other than the fact that I can see he drinks, what I perceive as, too much, there doesn't seem to be any negative effects of his drinking.
Is it possible for a person to drink "too much" and not be an alcoholic? Should I care about him drinking "too much" when there are no obvious negative effects on me or our relationship? What's my problem with this when it seems pretty obvious he can handle it? Should I just wait and see? (these are mostly rhetorical questions)
:new: