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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    I have been on MWO for a few weeks. When I first logged on, I admit I lurked for a little bit trying to figure out if the site was for me. One day I wandered in to the chat room and more or less got dragged kicking and screaming into the conversation by some very friendly people who seemed to care and understand. Like many people, it was/is a hard and fragile time admitting I have a problem with alcohol and opening up about it with others. But I did thanks to this site. For a short time, the chat room became my support group and AA meeting all in one. Then, 4 or 5 days ago, I logged into a relatively crowded chat room with a lot of senior members who all seemed to know each other. I think there were a few newbies like myself there too. Then out of nowhere one of the senior members questioned whether I was real and why I was on the site. I guess they thought I was a liar and a phony. I felt like I had been suckerpunched. I think that many of you can understand that it can be hard to face up to an alcohol problem, and maybe not the easiest to open up to other people about it, even if it is online. So maybe you can understand how it felt to have someone question your honesty about yourself and your problem. I guess my reaction was, ?I don?t need this s#&t? and I haven?t joined in a chat since. I poked my nose back in last night, but bugged out right away. I guess the last thing I need at this point is to have my honesty about a difficult time questioned again. I guess I just wanted to say that maybe if you are in the chat room and you are not sure about someone, maybe you could give them the benefit of the doubt. I am sure their true colors will show in time?

    As Forrest Gump said, ?That?s all I have to say about that??

    Rx

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    syrrx, someone called me a AFRICAN LIAR here and so it does not suprise me to find a few of that kind here. and that almost made me relapse but thanks to soo many friend who stood by my side and now am still sobe. syrrx you believe in yourself and dont let someone pull you down, you dont have to make anyone to believe in you, its up to him/her. the bottom line is you will find such wonderfull people here and you will get help. BELIEVE AND TRUST IN YOURSELF.

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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    I am really sorry you felt that way. I would say that most "senior" members are really great people and would help you in a heartbeat; do not feel discourged. Hang with this site and you will get great advice and encouragement!!!!!!!!!!

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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    Sally1949

    :new: Don't let the sceptic folk get you down. Hang in there. This is my first contact o hope someone contacts me.
    Best of luck!!!
    Cheers, Sally

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    Maasai, I am so sorry someone said something so horrible to you!!! But you are right, we must believe in ourselves, this is what matters----not what others say.

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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    Sally, you rock the casbah

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    Sally1949

    lukalee33;287311 wrote: I am really sorry you felt that way. I would say that most "senior" members are really great people and would help you in a heartbeat; do not feel discourged. Hang with this site and you will get great advice and encouragement!!!!!!!!!!
    Hello Lukalee33, You sound so nice & caring. I am hoping to make contact with some nice ppl. I have only just joined today.
    Best wishes Sally

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    Sally

    lukalee33;287314 wrote: Sally, you rock the casbah
    Wow! I got a reply...thank you soo much.
    I am starting a programe of not drinking, & being healthy, so perhaps my family will respect me again, If I am lucky.
    Thanks

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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    sally welcome here its of great help and you will learn alot too

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    pls give new people the benefit of the doubt

    I don't really ever hang in chat, it is too fast for me : )

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