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    Registered User. shitzulover's Avatar

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    How do you handle this?

    Well I am finally back on the boards!!I need a little advise-I am going on a trip for four days and I will be around a lot of people who drink. I am now alcohol free for 2 weeks. I am watching my weight so that is helping me alot through this time. I am really dreading falling off the wagon. My husband is supporting me and not drinking as well. How do I get my mind off of thinking of slipping? I am already thinking I am going to fail. I want out of this mind game. I have prayed and asked for help and even joined a church that both me and my husband can attend together for spiritualality. (spelling????) anyway, any suggestions to my vacation to be alcohol free and temptation free??

    Shitzulover.......

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    How do you handle this?

    Don't 'expect' to fail! Set up a plan, write it down, for every possible scenario. If you feel tempted, walk away, QUICKLY! But the expectation of failure is a set up to drink. Change your mindset NOW, before your in the situation.

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    How do you handle this?

    Try to minimize it as much as you can. If alot of people are sitting around drinking, get busy and do something else...do something in the kitchen, play with the kids, take a walk, etc.

    Have a glass of seltzer water or something else in your hand so people won't offer you something to drink.

    Have an exit plan and let your husband know what it is. Then, if you really start to feel uncomfortable, you can give your husband a signal and get out of dodge.

    Get your mind out of deprivation mode (i.e., I am deprived because I can't drink). Think of the gift you are giving to yourself and your husband for not drinking.

    Think about how you would feel about yourself the next day if you did drink (like shit right?). Now, think about how you will feel about yourself when you get through this vacation without drinking. One victory at a time!!

    Good for you for thinking ahead and anticipating when things might get difficult. It's so important.

    PS. I have a Shih Tzu too.

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    How do you handle this?

    Hi shitzulover,
    first of all i like to say well done on two weeks being sober, I got to say my husband has help me a lot by not drinking at home, but he does not have the problem, it me. Having your husband there beside you, and not drinking as well, will be a great help. when i went out a few weeks ago my first time out since xmas i was really nervous, i had to check that the people that bought the rounds in, had to make sure there was no AL in my coke. It funny i notice i even gulp my sofe drinks down really fast. One thing is to make sure you eat before you meet up with friends who are drinnking around you never go out on a empty stomach. Your already Thinking a head your not going to fail.
    Wishing you All the best and keep in the safe zone and your be ok. x

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    How do you handle this?

    all of the above and just rememeber you want to remember this time of how much fun you had ..not a bad hangover feeling..

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    How do you handle this?

    Hi again,
    come of the p.c and i was thinking that i had a thread called Thinking ahead b4 the beast i will bump it up for you, to read it may help you out...there also good advise on there as well as on here. Hope it help out.

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    How do you handle this?

    Having your husband's support by not drinking around you is wonderful!

    Don't plan on slipping. Everyone has made such great comments.

    Have a great vacation! Make happy memories and come home feeling proud you did it!
    Whether you think you can....... or think you can't......you are making the choice.

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    How do you handle this?

    The others have said just about all.
    If offered a drink, just say something like.....I don't drink, I want to be fully alert for the meeting, No thanks, I'm losing weight, I'll have an orange juice etc. It really is that easy. It is a mind game. Tell yourself it is not a big deal. Tell yourself drinking is not important, then let it go, and try not to keep thinking about it. We don't think all day long aboit butter like RJ says in her book!!

    Good luck.

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    How do you handle this?

    i find when i watch others drinking, most of them dont drink like i do. they SIP and enjoy the moment. i would GULP and look for my next drink and get drunk. this makes me sure that i cant have just one drink as it will become a battle and a bottle and more.

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