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      How do I face people after I was blacked out drunk?

      Hey everyone,

      I am more of a 'lurker', but I really want to change that. I guess I just don't seem wise enough yet to offer advice. I am a binger, who has successfully modded the last six months, but alas, I have fallen back into my dangerous ways again. Life is so friggin' stressful! And of course, my normie husband never comments when I do good, only when I mess up. So I do have a dilemma that I was hoping to get advice on. Last week, at a 4th of July party I got shit-faced. I blacked out, so I don't know what I did, but my husband said I 'embarrassed him'. I didn't want details anyway. But the party was at the home of the people who are going to be our new next door neighbors. We are building a house on a lake, and its almost finished. So this party consisted of several of their family and friends, who I will see again. HOW DO I FACE THEM? Do I say, oh yeah, i know I was bombed, sorry about that! Or do I act like nothing happened? Seems to me normies will acknowledge a singled out drunken mess they made of themselves, but alkies will not want to bring it up. That's been my experience with others in my life. I don't want to be known as 'that drunken housewife' before I even get to live there! Ugh.

      I have GOT to wise up and realize modding won't work for me. And living on a lake? It sounds like one big party out there. I have to learn to say NO! Wish me luck!

      Thanks for listening.

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      You will see them regularly again you need to know what happened. Be brave and ask your husband. Then you will know whether you need to apologize or just ignore it.

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      Hi Gettingthere,

      I agree with Nancy, your husband should tell you what happened...that way it can be your choice what to do. If it wasn't that "bad", I would just ignore it. I know it's embarrassing and hard to hear, but you should know what went on...you'll probably feel better and maybe even relieved once you know.

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      How do I face people after I was blacked out drunk?

      You are right, K9 I didn't want to hear what you and Nancy suggested. I would rather pull off my toenails off one by one with rusty pliers than talk to my husband about that night! He doesn't get alcoholism and doesn't try.
      I just get very very talkative when I get that drunk and I am sure I was slurring and slobbering too. It was later in the evening that I lost track of everything, so hopefully my husband just got us the heck out of there when he realized how drunk I was.

      I just want this behind me. I get so sad when I think about it.

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      Of course it would be hard. But is it going to be easier being around these people all the time and wondering what happened? If it's slurring or falling that's one thing but you need to know if you said something insulting, something that could damage future relationships.

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      I've known normies who've been trashed in the past & never apologized. I think inside they may have felt just as awkward as the next person, aka an alkie or problem drinker. Whether normie or not, people remember being over the limit, they remember not remembering & wondering what the hell they might have said or did. I think if you would have done something really awful besides embarrassing your hubs, he would have told you by now. Is he giving you the cold shoulder now? If he is then ask him what ya did & said.

      Me personally I'd do nothing. Only, cause ya say you have been in control last 6 mo. It will be a bit awkward at first, but after about 5-15 minutes it will pass. Most likely they too have been in your shoes at one time or a another. It's not like you do this every time you drink.

      When you have to face them again & you feel fear. Picture them all wearing something like baby clothes, with pacifiers in their mouths, or something to get the fear out of your head, until it passes. Good Luck, it probably won't be as bad as you think.

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      Here's an example from my past. I've been married for 28 yrs. There have been times I embarrassed my hubs & he said nothing. I to didn't want to know. Then there were times he told me what I said. Then I asked him why he didn't tell me about the other times, he said there was a drastic difference. Embarrassing to him meant being loud, the life of the party. Then there were times I was rude, obnoxious, angry & even insulting people. This was the progression of my drinking over time.

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      Its gonna be a pink elephant until it is faced. YOU may not know what happened but surely others did.

      Grab your boot straps, face up, apologize, dont do it again, and move on.



      Thats what I'd do if I was in your shoes........its what I have done

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      Another concept might be that if your husband says it was really bad, that you go humbly to your new neighbors and tell them you are sorry, and that you are trying to own your experiences with alcohol. A simple humble spirit might actually produce a bond as they realize you are mature and growing and open to change. They no doubt fail in there lives in some areas, and knowing the new neighbor is vulnerable might encourage them. Certainly there is a risk to that, but they would almost for sure respect the heck out of you for it. Just a thought, and there probably is no real correct answer.

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      If it's going to continue to bother You, not knowing what you said, or did, then maybe it's best you ask your hubs. This way you are armed with truth & knowledge, so that you can think about it & make an informed decision on how to proceed. Wishing you the best!...

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