something is wrong wiht aunt diane

[Alky]

The Taconic Parkway is a heinous road sober. I can't imagine driving it drunk/stoned. Law & Order made an episode about this.

[K9Lover]

Weren't they returning home from a camping trip...and nobody recalled her drinking anything? In fact the husband claimed they had the same bottle of vodka in the trailer for "years". I can imagine the lengths she went to to keep up that facade. So, so sad. I knew what was coming and I was on edge the whole time I was watching it.

[Alky]

I haven't made it all the way through, but I have a couple of observations:

1. Alcoholics are the best liars and fakers. I was pulled over by the State Police for speeding while completely bombed. I was not administered a field sobriety test. On another occasion when I was taken to the emergency room with a .55 BAC, I overheard a nurse say that I hide my drunkenness well. So it comes as absolutely no surprise that she was able to conceal her drinking from everyone around her.

2. Alcoholism is a unique disorder in that it is a disease, but it is also a symptom of some other problem. Personally, having had a cheating spouse, all the red flags are there in this case. I can't really articulate why, but there is something "off" about the relationship between the husband and the sister-in-law. There is a level of intimacy there that just shouldn't be there. I think this very well could be the root cause of the drinking, but it's just my conjecture based on my own experiences, and I could be way off. But it could also explain why she so vehemently feels the need to defend her now-dead sister-in-law.

[Alky]

Ok, I finished it this evening, and my take on it is that this was murder/suicide. I'm convinced something unseemly was happening between husband and sister-and-law and given her family history, wife was unable to handle it. Call me paranoid, but having lived it, a cheating partner will forever be the bogeyman in my closet.

[SKendall]

This documentary has resonated with me all day. She had all of the pre-dispositions of a female alcoholic. Her mother abandoned her and she assumed a maternal role very early. Being perfect was very important to her.

She married a clueless man who was simply another child. She had no marital support. No-one ever saw her drinking, and while this is uncomfortable to say, many closet drinkers take their alcohol in an enema. No-one sees that.

Her husband has to go into denial. But, he is an absolute asshole in denial.

[treetops]

This is getting off-topic perhaps but what pray, is the is pre-disposition of a female alcoholic? We come with all manner of life histories. What makes us what we are is our addiction to alcohol - male or female. We women may have different pressures and problems to men and AL metabolises somewhat differently for us but I don't think gender has been shown to predispose a 'female alcoholic'.

The enema story is a new one to me and I have heard quite a few tales in my time.

[SKendall]

Alky, you make valid points.

IMHO I think she started to be overwhelmed about life when the husband was being a frat kid. She was raising kids, pkus a husband, she took this role on very early.

Denial is definitely a problem here. I did an update check and he is suing NY state re conditions of roads, and suing his bil who lost 3 daughters, for a faulty vehicle.

Husband doesn't have a grip.

Gosh darn it all.

[MonaCat]

Alky, wow...interesting theory....I never would have thought it.
I am still overwhelmed about this story.
I never liked other people driving my kids around.
Yes Lucky, Aunt Diane had THC in her system as well.
Sk, I didn't know about the enema thing ?

[K9Lover]

I saw a documentary on the enema thing...forget what it was called...the guy it featured died because he was just blasting too much poison straight into his bloodstream. So sad that people get to that point. His wife was helping him with the enemas...

I never thought about Aunt Diane committing suicide. IF she did, it's unforgivable that she took those kids out with her.

[Hopeful2014]

I really hated when the husband said (for his son to hear later in life) that he never wanted to have kids and now here he was stuck with this life. Asshole.