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      I wonder how many of us drank just for the pleasure of the buzz, or just to get drunk? Does there have to be an underlying cause for us to be alcoholics? Most therapists will tell you that there is always an underlying cause, but, that's what they've been taught. There's always exceptions to every rule and maybe for some of us, we are that exception. Does that then make us alcoholics or just problem drinkers? And just what is the difference between an alcoholic and a problem drinker?

      Your quote this morning @Jude58 got me to thinking about a post I read on my other forum this morning. There's a gal over there that had given up her weekend binge drinking for I think it's almost 3 years, then started up again. She's been trying to quit again since October I think without much success. She has 3 months without a cigarette, eating healthier and lost some weight, exercising, but still drinks to excess on the weekend, every weekend. She just started going to a therapist to get some extra help, and her therapist told her not to worry about her binge drinking, why give up something that she enjoyed doing!

      My first thought was to tell her to get a new therapist, but, is that what she should do.....your ideas/thoughts on this?

      EDIT: I thought I'd add her post so that y'all could read into it in your own way...


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      I’m so conflicted today I had my therapist tell me if I can keep it to the weekend there’s nothing wrong with that you don’t need to deprive yourself of things you enjoy. So totally confused. I’m doing good in other areas of my life, almost 3 months without smoking and better eating habits I just can’t seem to let go of the weekend drinking.
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      Re: ~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

      5:41 am in Vegas,another 24 please I'd like to hear what people have to say about it too Cowboy
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      Re: ~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

      I say the therapist's advice was shocking and unprofessional! It could be that the therapist drinks to excess every weekend and is trying to affirm his/her own drinking. Regardless of what the therapist thinks about al consumption, the client came to treatment with something that is what is a problem for her, or a behavior that she wants changed. It is obviously much healthier NOT to drink to excess every time you drink and it is a reasonable thing to want to get control over. I agree with you @abcowboy, she should get a different therapist. That one is not going to help her make the positive changes she is seeking. IMO

      The words "Physician, heal thyself" spring to mind.
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      Re: ~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

      Well, that is an interesting response from the therapist. How do we know how honest this person is being with their therapist though? Maybe she's not really admitting to the true amount she's drinking on the weekends. It might be this person's way of coming back to the forum to say, see it's okay what I'm doing. In any case, science tells us binge drinking in any form is not healthy. Hopefully, she finds some peace with this.

      Cowboy, a lot of my drinking was for the buzz. It could be crazy fun, until it wasn't. So I'll ask for another 24 please and thank you!
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      I'm in for another 24 af hours! Big hello to all of you in the cafť! Hope you're having a nice Thursday..xx

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      Another 24 hours please & thank you.

      Having navigated our health care system with Mrs QW, I wouldn’t hesitate to find another health care provider if I wasn’t satisfied with the care provided. For a therapist to say binge poisoning yourself is OK is NOT OK! Ginger raises a very good point though - how do we know the therapist was told the whole story?

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      Another 24 for me please. ABC, I feel I definitely drank for the pleasure and buzz. Happy, sad, etc. Drink to feel buzzed. Never needed a particular reason. As far as the girl from the other group, I would advise her to check out the alcohol experiment by Annie Grace. Its totally free and gives you lots of tips and daily videos to help you see how drinking affects you. There is no judgment and lots of useful information. It may be just the boost she needs. I know it was for me.
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      Re: ~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

      “Addiction is a repeated temporary...stilling. I am concerned with peace...not mere relief.
      ― Edward Albee, A Delicate Balance

      I can really relate to this quote. I find that when I'm not drinking, the turmoil within me is quieted, and that a calm, peaceful feeling is allowed to shine through.

      I think that at first I drank to experience that warm, fuzzy feeling that all was well with the world, so I would have another to keep that feeling alive. Unfortunately, we all know where that goes. It's as though I was in a cave during a raging blizzard....totally unaware of what was going on around me.

      I also think that the woman should try a different therapist, and as Rava suggested, try This Naked Mind alcohol experiment.

      Humbly signing up for another 24 please and thank you!
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      5:55am in Alberta, another 24 please, and thanks...

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      I'm sure in for another 24af hours!!

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