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    Registered User. Pavati's Avatar

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    Hi,

    I had nights out without drinking - I wonder how you feel about that?

    1. Eat ahead of time.
    2. Make sure you have a FIRM commitment not to drink. If you need, develop an excuse - you're on antibiotics, you have a stomach issue. Or what I said which is that I quit drinking for a month and felt so good I kept it going.
    3. Have an exit plan. Drive yourself, or know how you're getting home so you can leave whenever you want.

    If you have the slightest feeling you will drink, don't go. It is easy to look at drinking through rose colored glasses. Remember how bad you felt, make a list of the good things you feel - whichever is motivating.

    Stay firm. If you want a faster response, try a busier thread - there are a couple.

    You got this,
    Pav

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    Thank you. good advice

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    well sadly, i don't think i'll be quitting for good as going on a birthday bash round the pubs soon. am happy i've mangned 44 days so far and will be at least 60 by the time this event comes around.

    Will keep u updated but can't see it lasting forever as I once predicted. Being honest is key i suppose :-(

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    Just a curious experiment for you may be to go out with some friends, and don't drink. Watch how the behavior of some of your friends may change throughout the night, and perhaps you may see it through a different color lens than before? When I recently went out with some co-workers, and watching how behavior changes... silly stories that shouldn't be shared are blurted out, another guy starts every sentence with, "ya know what?"..... to be honest, I was a little impatient and yet embarrassed because I know that was ME 5 months ago.

    Being honest is key- this is your thread, after all, and it may help you to read what your own thoughts above before you make any decisions.
    For me, when I was sick and tired of being "sick and tired", I hit my final quit button. I had quit several times before, but I had always thought of it as "quitting for now", so in retrospect, I knew it wasn't a lifelong commitment. With that being said, every AF day is a gift for your body to recover, so don't stop yet.
    "God didn't give you the Strength to get back on your feet
    so that you can run back to the same thing that knocked you down."

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    i've stayed sober before and seen drunk friends. it is an eye opening experience and sometimes you can see people change after only a few drinks.

    Amazing. It's true that it does make you glad you are not acting like them but it's different when you are feeling the drug itself in that setting. By that setting I mean out having fun as oppose to sitting drinking by yourself indoors.

    I'm glad I've managed so many days alcohol free so far.

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    I have to report I did drink on Saturday. Just a few pints over the course of the night (bout 6 in 9 hours) not an excessive amount by any means. Didn't really enjoy it as much as I thought probably because I didn't get off my face drunk - no where near it.

    At least I can be glad I did 53 days drink free which is the longest.

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    53 days is great! i'm on day 54 now.

    so now what are you going to do? learn from this and start again, with a better plan?
    one of the things that helps me a lot is posting in the newbies nest, where there are some very experienced people responding to your posts on a daily basis. i think connection is key to lasting sobriety.

    hey dear scotskev, i wonder: is "Will keep u updated but can't see it lasting forever as I once predicted. Being honest is key i suppose" an excuse for feeling yourself succumb to the lure of addiction while not making plans to stop yourself? it's like you were giving yourself permission before you were actually drinking.

    hope you'll pick up where you left. i guess you didn’t choose the name for your thread without reasons..
    Last edited by julia1970; February 24th, 2020 at 04:21 PM.

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    thank you.

    I'm going to treat drinking in the same way as having CHEAT DAYS when dieting. Largely will do most drinking when out of town on some sort of do i.e. a stag do or party.

    Then take some time off again until I fall off the wagon. Still kind proud of my 53 days. I will be drinking this weekend but not sure after that

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    for me 'cheat days' for me were more like a one way ticket back to alcohol hell. sometimes i managed to moderate for a short period, but the floodgates would surely fly. i've lost decades of my life like that.

    hope you'll manage. take care!

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    Re: Have now quit for good

    Quote Originally Posted by julia1970 View Post
    for me 'cheat days' for me were more like a one way ticket back to alcohol hell. sometimes i managed to moderate for a short period, but the floodgates would surely fly. i've lost decades of my life like that.

    hope you'll manage. take care!
    thank you. will take care.

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