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    @satz123...................I'm so,so sorry. It must be like living on a knife edge. Don't go blaming yourselves he's a grown educated man. To be honest I'd have smacked him silly.
    And I guess like me Jackie you're fumbling round in the dark to think of what can be done... but certainly in treatment --- education and brains are not necessarily a help --often more a hindrance because they think they know better than the 'experts' -- people who've walked the walk of sobriety for 20-30 years.... like my counsellor said to me 'leave your brains at the front door' --- and I did
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    Evening everyone

    Wonderful news and horrible news in equal measures. Delighted for you Brit and enjoy your runs. Satz my heart goes out to you. Like the others I am lost as to what can be done and only he can do it. Really thought that this time seeing the consequences of picking up that first drink it might be enough. He did not get much back up from the treatment place when he relapsed so maybe a sponsor is the way to go but where do you find a good one. Take care of yourself as best you can.

    Another busy day here. Chicken in the oven of Airbnb and waiting for himself to arrive. Lashed rain all day but beautiful now.

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    Evening everyone

    Wonderful news and horrible news in equal measures. Delighted for you Brit and enjoy your runs. Satz my heart goes out to you. Like the others I am lost as to what can be done and only he can do it. Really thought that this time seeing the consequences of picking up that first drink it might be enough. He did not get much back up from the treatment place when he relapsed so maybe a sponsor is the way to go but where do you find a good one. Take care of yourself as best you can.

    Another busy day here. Chicken in the oven of Airbnb and waiting for himself to arrive. Lashed rain all day but beautiful now.
    being completely selfish I'm really glad it was raining today -- have been thinking of my plants parching in the ground... heading down there after the party...

    The situation with the treatment centre is quite complex... they have to put the newly sober inmates first and foremost.. they say it from the very first day down there that there is a relapse protocol in place to a certain extent (and tbh it seemed fairly extensive to me... a friend of mine down there did relapse but they gave her like one chance and it worked) -- so yeah -- it seems harsh but I s'pose they can't be all things to all men... I'm not saying it's right -- or wrong --- just that's the way it is..
    and I really do understand how abandoned YS and Benjy must have felt...
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    Thanks everyone for the kind words.
    Well I decided to have one more go at it & sent him to my doctor (who I first went to see many years ago when I was in the height of it & cried in her office.) It was over YS as it happens + the shit I was getting in work at the time. At the time she prescribed Serotonin uptake thingys - said serotonin gets depleted with menopause & stress.

    Little did I know then how bad it was really going to get.

    She takes no prisoners & gave YS a telling off & Librium for withdrawals.
    ......so here we go again.
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    Thanks everyone for the kind words.
    Well I decided to have one more go at it & sent him to my doctor (who I first went to see many years ago when I was in the height of it & cried in her office.) It was over YS as it happens + the shit I was getting in work at the time. At the time she prescribed Serotonin uptake thingys - said serotonin gets depleted with menopause & stress.

    Little did I know then how bad it was really going to get.

    She takes no prisoners & gave YS a telling off & Librium for withdrawals.
    ......so here we go again.
    Its worth a try....just SOME DAY it WILL click....contrary to popular opinion an awful lot of addicts do 'get it'....some sooner...some later...I wonder if you truly told him when sober the impact it's having on your life regardless of whether he's with you or not....some words MAY take hold no matter how many times you've said them before.

    I've said it here before...but at some stage in the middle of my on/off horrible drinking...Joe said to me...and these were his simple words 'I've never cried as much as I have in the last year'....it was like he smacked me in the face...my big tough Irishman...stoic in all circumstances....definitely a turning point...how could I do that to someone I love?
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    Re: May Army 2022

    Morning,
    @mollyka.............while Mr JC didn't cry but he told me about six/nine months into this quit that he used to drive home and the nearer home he got his anxiety would build wondering what state I'd be in when he got home. He didn't tell me until I was about a year in too.

    My kids pointed out that I had more alkie friends than 'ordinary' people. One of them is someone I was convinced he would die and bumped into him at the a New Year's Eve party.............my first words were 'I thought you were dead'. Turned out he'd been to re-hab, then AA and actually listened not twiddled his fingers waiting for the finish so he could get to the pub/shops.
    Just remembered a phrase I heard when I was at AA..................'take the cotton wool out of your ears and put it in your mouth and listen' He's now 3 years plus sober.

    @satz123.......I truly hope this de-tox sticks.

    Better get a shift on. All we've got is a tub of moldy Parmesan in the fridge.
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    Evening all...well the joint birthday party went off brilliantly..Sun shone...beautiful food..and all the family around us....from elder statesman Joe...70(almost) to baby Bobby thriving and all the big and little'uns in between...very special day...full as an egg and tired but happy!
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    Re: May Army 2022

    I don't know what to say or do anymore.
    An ex girlfriend of his just rang ( she's married with kids now ) and said he was over there annoying her & even went into the hall where the kids were at dance classes & they were terrified,
    The police were called but he had gone by then.

    I expect a police car to pull up here any time now. Has never happened before and has to be my worst nightmare.
    I feel like I'm talking about someone else - totally detached from us.
    NONE of my family of MrS family have ever been involved with police - Jesus.

    Looking at him the last 2 days he was acting very oddly - out of charactar even for an alko. So I think whie I thought he was only taking the pills - he was mixing pills & alcohol .
    He collected the Librium today while I was at work & I think he may have taken them + she said he was drinking a bottle of vodka.
    If he does turn up I'll have to drag him to Mater hospital & check him in for a detox.

    Sorry for the epic bad news every night - but it helps to get it down
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    Night everyone

    Glad that we can at least be here for you to do that Satz. Truly awful situation and could happen to any of us. Thinking of you Glad the birthday celebrations went well Molly. Another busy but productive day but we drove into the nearest big town tonight, about 20 minutes away and had a lovely meal. Stuffed to the gills and off to bed now.

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    Hi all. Confirmation day done, all went great. We got loads of house jobs done over the past few days (that'll be it until one of the kids gets married!) and new kitchen fed and entertained about 25, just family. Am v tired now.

    Delighted with your news @brit! We have to keep up with Techie now!!

    I am so very sorry to hear your news @satz123. Its devastating and sounds like he's getting worse, confused, on something maybe. There's no answer, he can't see the hurt he's causing when he's off the wagon. Would the libruim and vodka not make him v sick? Rather than weird behaviour?
    Hope your minding yourself?
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