ARMY MAY thread !

[mollyka]

Evening all..just popping in to say goodnight..not much going on...just a lovely peaceful day in the sunshine....nathin wrong with that!!! Night all xx

[satz123]

I think it might be -- it'll make his drinking less easy -- if he has a bank account his payment is made into get him at a sick guilty moment and set up a dd or s/o for a huge % of his money --- I lost a post earlier -- but I do think the first time the penny dropped for me that it was just getting too complicated - I thought of renting a flat near where I worked and being able to 'live' as I wanted to -- but when I did the finances on my meagre wage I realised I couldn't escape and it began the thoughts of just maybe I'd reached the end of the road with my alcohol 'fun'.

Another thought -- you say there is drink in the house 24/7 -- HIS drink --- if MrS is as cross as he sounds --- bearing in mind this is YOUR house you are talking about -- when he's hiding up in his room -- get him to go in and take the drink off him -- and if he doesn't want confrontation - wait till he's 'asleep' (blacked out more likely) and go in and take any drink out --- and empty it down the sink and leave the empty bottles on the drainer for him to see at a later time -- SHAME him --- maybe the potential for confrontation is too much for you and again I DO understand that --- but going back to the teenager analogy -- when mine were teens and 'living' in my garage at the weekends with their mates - Joe used to go in and take all drug paraphernalia out and all empty bottles of drink and leave them in the kit hen so they knew they had been rumbled --- these may be ridiculous ideas -- but if the alternative is to put him out -- it may be worth trying?

Oh -- and one more thing --- from MY experience --- don't let him get back to playing happy families when he's only a week or two sober -- let it hurt him --- let him see your hurt when he is sober ---- you may be dying to put your arms around your lovely boy and show him how much you care --- I wouldn't --- I would stay as hard as nails until there is a decent chunk of sobriety --- in my case as soon as everyone had forgiven and apparently forgotten - I planned my next little escapade --- with relish

Sorry Molls but that made me snigger ! Your conniving

Funny you say that about taking the drink - that is exactly what I've just done when he wasn't looking. And he has now gone to bed & asleep.
I can't let MrS near him because all he does is ROAR at him & call him allsorts - looks at him as if he's a piece of dirt which I won't allow him to do. No.
The shouting, in my opinion is just pointless.
We've gone way past the lining up the empties Molls. Did it months ago. It did hit him seeing them - but didn't stop him starting again.

The state he is in now I think a medical detox is the only option left.
His whole body was literally shaking today and he had to take another drink to stop it. Would that shaking be hypoglycemic ( very low sugar ) ?
I've to work tomorrow so nothing will be done.

And the angelic Germans are due on Saturday - Jazus !!!

[satz123]

Late check -in.................been at the Church coffee morning I go to on a Wednesday. Just of auld biddies having yak and putting the world to rights.............it doesn't matter that you don't have to belong to the church.
@NoSugar...........thank you too for thinking about me.

Ahhh Satz, GP's are absolutely hopeless when it comes to addiction. My cousin's married to surgeon and he drinks like a fish when he's home.

I was lucky all those years ago I saw a stand-in doctor who actually knew his stuff about alcoholism. Our local drug and alcohol place has moved to a place that's hard to get to and if you like AA its down to one place in town now and that blooming hard to get to as well. There used to be four places.

I don't like ice in my water and its a proper carry on to get it through to bar person ( how woke am I )

WTF is this 'woke' word I'm hearing everywhere ? Need to chat GTP it.
It me it's something I did at 8am this morning

[satz123]

x post Molls

Enough about YS - enough time taken up with that.
Off work today.
'Been talked into going to join my 2 neighbours & head up to a local 'gym' class.
I suspect it is an older lady ( which I am but still fighting against it ) type of thing - we'll see.

Hopefully, being used to the gym I won't make a complete show of myself and will keep up

And yes it was. Average age 101. Think cruise ship and the OAPs doing a morning keep fit class and you'll get the idea.
The really sad thing is I enjoyed the slow pace of it compared to the circuits in the other gym - I am basically a lazy fecker.
It was also a bit of fun with sponge balls being the most dangerous piece of equipment

(I'll probably go again next week )

[starty]

Good morning one and all,

Jax lovely to see you back and glad you're keeping well.

Satz that gym class sounds bloody perfect! Not sure I would keep going as I have this underlying fear of wasting movement time and doing it slowly My neighbour who I sometimes walk with is a bit of a dawdler and I am a brisk walker. Rather frustrating at times. However, as I grow older maybe slowing down and keeping at it for longer is the key.....hmmm,

Sorry about YS and am very much in the camp that thinks if he had less money, life would be a bit tougher for him. We all need to pay our way so paying you would be a start.

Been spending some time in the garden and getting some new plants. Yesterday a small lavender and a lemon herby plant thing. Looking forward to them being lovely large examples I am also getting a small plastic greenhouse as I would like to grow some salad leaves etc. I already have tomatoes on the go but would like some other bits. All quite exiting for this severely non green fingered loathes gardening type person! Any tips on growing stuff gratefully received!

[mollyka]

I would LOVE gardening convo's Starty....bring it on!!!!!

The shaking is undoubtedly DT's in his case Benjy...some of us maybe had a bit of a tremble in the hands after a particularly bad session but the DT's can be very dangerous...can lead to fits so I'm thinking a hospital detox is maybe the only safe way to go...that's what happened to the lad on the plane to Spain...he was in hospital for a week after that...I wouldn't ignore that....it's the extreme end of alcohol abuse...in my case (and when I was drinking I did drink a lot) I would only have had a few days of anxiety and feeling 'off'...to get to DT's imo is another stage altogether.

Maybe a hospital detox and the specialist alcohol doctors could be what he needs to frighten him?

I do think we need to slow down somewhat as we age...50 and 60 something year old bodies cannot take the exercise our 30 and 40 year old bodies do.....I can walk endlessly and swim...and lately use the ebike without assist most of the time...but steep climbs I'm very happy to turn on the assist a bit...and running just hurts my joints....it was over exercising in my teens and 20's that caused my hips to give up.

Right..must think about the day...we're going away for a few days next week and then have the wedding on Thurs and after that it's just a countdown to Kerry....yay!!!
Later xx

[JackieClaire]

Morning

We were third in the quiz but we had a great night. My friend got the shock of her life when we brought out a birthday cake, funny hats and her pressies.
@satz123
Woke Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
To be honest it drives me mad.

When I was volunteering at Drug & Alcohol place I saw someone have a fit as he'd stopped drinking without a doctor's help..............scared me enough to realise I could never drink again.

Moan of the day I've got an ulcer on my tongue.

[mollyka]

Sometimes the world feels like its been taken over by Wokeness on one side and far right fascists on the other....no room for the middleman (oh oh oh MIDDLEPERSON...need to invoke my woke soul)

[rustop59]

Afternoon all

Just a quick check in to say hello. Drove west this morning and OMG it is only glorious here. Jungle outside as we have not been here in weeks. Had my lunch outside, read the papers and now I think I?ll take the doggies on a lakeshore walk/swim. Bliss!

[mollyka]

Afternoon all

Just a quick check in to say hello. Drove west this morning and OMG it is only glorious here. Jungle outside as we have not been here in weeks. Had my lunch outside, read the papers and now I think I?ll take the doggies on a lakeshore walk/swim. Bliss!

Doing similar Rusters. Baking alive ... Max lying down in the pond...hilarious...he hates swimming!