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    I can't handle this

    amidst me trying to get myself in line and things under control. My husband is threatening ending the two and a half year marriage, the 11 year relationship. I have never wanted to self medicate more in my life. This is so hard. The only thing keeping me half way sane is my 19 month old beautiful baby girl. I just have never had astruggle like this ever. wow,

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    I can't handle this

    Hi Miim - I'm doing this on my phone so I hope it doesn't go wrong!

    Firstly, I'm so sorry as this is obviously a major trigger - I'm in similar-ish situation. Is yr H wanting to split over problems with drinking, or other personal stuff? If iit's the former, cau u talk to him & explain that you are trying & his support will help to give you strength etc.

    Are you taking any of the supplements & doing CDs? I can only suggests to hold strong & keep going for YOU!! What will happen will happen & you need to be in a clear space for both your sakes (you & your daughter)

    Good luck!! & talk lots.

    take care
    xx

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    I can't handle this

    Miim
    I remember when you first posted last week. This must be so difficult My heart goes out to you. My best suggestion would be to remember that you are trying so hard to help yourself with your drinking problem. If your husband can't be supportive now, then you must muster the strength to do it without his help. Remember that your little one needs you now more than ever - babies can sense tension. Don't give up and don't give in - PLEASE, you deserve to be happy and healthy. If you haven't ordered the meds yet, see if you have a store called The Vitamin Shoppe in town. I think it's a franchise. They carry the brand of kudzu that was recommended in the book initially(Solary, I think, or something like that). Anyway, I really think it helps with the cravings. I've been taking 3 of the 150 mg three times a day, and have been able to cut back (but not stop completely - maybe a day here or there). Any help is good, right?
    Keep in touch
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    I can't handle this

    Hey Sweetie, hope you're OK?!

    I read back on your threads - you mentioned low self-esteem. Do you think post natal depression is also triggering your drinking? Hindsight is 20/20 vision & I can clearly see where it effected me................... 'my poor, beautiful baby getting me for her mother' etc ....................... inadequate and poor support from gyne - drugs & more really crap drugs.

    If you feel bad about yourself the AL will only make it worse.

    You are a beautiful, capable mother!............the treasure you are given to nuture and love has been chosen for you!!.............. to teach you love and compassion..........you deserve the joy that she brings to you!!! Take it & seize it.................if it is the only thing that gets you through the day, that is good enough!!

    Further................... where are you???? Can you try AF?? At first I was terrified!!!! Truly thought I couldn't cope. 1st night wan't too bad - need lots of distraction!!! Books, computer games, MWO - talk - talk - talk, etc Maybe after some clarity you can see what you need?!?

    Please keep in touch.

    Take care
    XXX

    :h

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    I can't handle this

    jinja;306216 wrote: Hey Sweetie, hope you're OK?!

    I read back on your threads - you mentioned low self-esteem. Do you think post natal depression is also triggering your drinking? Hindsight is 20/20 vision & I can clearly see where it effected me................... 'my poor, beautiful baby getting me for her mother' etc ....................... inadequate and poor support from gyne - drugs & more really crap drugs.

    If you feel bad about yourself the AL will only make it worse.

    You are a beautiful, capable mother!............the treasure you are given to nuture and love has been chosen for you!!.............. to teach you love and compassion..........you deserve the joy that she brings to you!!! Take it & seize it.................if it is the only thing that gets you through the day, that is good enough!!

    Further................... where are you???? Can you try AF?? At first I was terrified!!!! Truly thought I couldn't cope. 1st night wan't too bad - need lots of distraction!!! Books, computer games, MWO - talk - talk - talk, etc Maybe after some clarity you can see what you need?!?

    Please keep in touch.

    Take care
    XXX

    :h
    Thank you for the encouragment everyone, really. We have a counseling appt today and I am extremely anxious.

    I don't think any post-natal depression has triggered drinking. Honestly I don't like who I am with him. I just can't seem to break away. I have been intertwined with him since I was 15 (now 26). I think I am slowly starting to see I don't really know who I am. I will check back in later

    thanks again

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    I can't handle this

    [QUOTE=miim619;306853] I think I am slowly starting to see I don't really know who I am.


    Ditto that!!! More time AF does help, but it's your journey. Your time of self discovery. Take it slowly - it wont happen over night.

    Go well & keep strong.

    Take care
    xxx

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    I can't handle this

    Miim,
    This sounds like thier is more than booze involved in this problem !?! Give me some more info on your situation ! Maybe we can help ....IAD !

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    I can't handle this

    YES,what IAD said..

    Please,more info,I would love to try to give any help I might be able to...I seem to have been thru EVERY POSSIBLE marriage trial and tribulation,LOL..not really something to LOL about,really....But I am awake for a while!Oh,what a lot of hard things to deal with ALL AT ONCE ...:l:l

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    I can't handle this

    Oh,and MIIM.MOST IMPORTANTLY!IF I MISS YOU TONITE,you can TOO ,handle this!!!!!!!

    :l:l:huggy:,:huggy:!!!!

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    I can't handle this

    How are you tday,Miim?


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