Newbies Nest

Hi, All:

Available - You ARE an amazing person. I'm sorry for what you went through, and so admire your attitude. I think your sober memoir should be on my bookshelf next to NoSugar's sober advice book.

Pauly - I'm sorry for what you went through, too. Another strong woman in our midst. Take care of yourself. Tony's adorable.

Lav - Counting down the days to 10. What an accomplishment.

LC - I'm SO glad to see you checking in. As NoSugar points out, needing to quit isn't necessarily about amount, but how alcohol makes you feel. It sounds like it makes you feel pretty bad about yourself. If you sit down and think about it, you're an amazing woman. Single mom, career, foreign country. Plus, you have empathy and care for others - Andre, the "grandma," your parents. Taking care of yourself is not selfish - it is key to being able to take care of others. You got this!

Daisy! Welcome back. I'm sorry you've had such a tough year, and sorry people betrayed you. Settle in here in the nest - as you know, a great place.

Mr. G - 6 months! Wowzers. Onward and upward.

Nar - +1 Hah. I've done my fair share of hungover yoga. So glad to be doing sober yoga now. Wish we could meet for a class...

Slo - I was at the party for about three hours - my husband stayed another three! The host passed out on the couch in no clothes (he was in the hot tub) - a grown man! I am so glad I left when I did, which was when people started drunk close talking, and repeating the same stories. It was good to catch up with people, and many of us left with our dignity...

Hi to everyone! I LOVE the switch to daylight savings time. I can't believe we live in that darkness 4 months out of the year. Now it is light again when I leave work, and I have a significant mood improvement. Phew.

Happy SOBER Tuesday.
Pav

Pav,I think I'll love it when my body gets used to the sleep thing,more daytime is a good thing;) waves to all!

Morning nesters

Well i am having a much needed break from work. Thanks everyone for your kind words, i always think there is someone worse off than me and that brings up a lot of grateful that i have the life i have. Since meeting my uncle i have been chatting a lot to my cousin and hopefully we are going to catch up in a couple of months. lots of childhood memories for us to both enjoy and talk about.

NS i am unsure about my father, he would be 83 today, i am not even sure if he is alive to be honest. The freedom is exceptionally wonderful and i know i would not feel the way i do if i had kept drinking.

Pauly, i call my father my piece of sperm as i dont believe he deserves the title of father. After my uncle raped me i never used the term rape as i felt it was my fault as i was drunk but over time, he did rape me plain and simple. But the positive is i have forgiven him and he has not drank in 25 years, we did talk about our al issues. he had apologised years ago for this and i said yes, as really what could i have done except destroyed the family further by going to the police, so i suppose i used the words forgive but could never know if i felt it or not. The good thing about meeting him after being sober is knowing that i did forgive him. i was a bit angry at him but he recognised that and when i got over that it was fine. I think my anger mainly comes from losing my father and not knowing what could/would have been over the years. I had my daughter with me for support as my children know and are a great help. I think with time Pauly you will forgive yourself, you have to, whats done is done and cant be undone and feeling at peace is pretty good.

G, happy 6 months to you. cant wait to celebrate your one year.

I have lots more to say but have to get ready to go to the vets with mads and carls. this is going to be like taking a toddler out shopping.

i will be back. take care and enjoy that +1 Nar (that vid still makes me smile when i think about it).

xx

Good afternoon, all. I think I made it through another day at work without blowing a gasket, but it was close. Apparently, there is some BIG company news and they want all hands on deck for a meeting, they want all the remote people to go to our nearest branch. Mine is 4+ hours away, which typically, wouldn't be such a big deal, I could go over and call on customers and work in the area. The meeting is May 16 from 3-5pm. On May 17th, I'm flying to Chicago for a trade show. So that would put me driving 9 hours in one day, attending the meeting and getting home at 10pm the night before I have to be in Chicago for 5 days. I told my boss I wasn't sure if I could do all that and be at my best for Chicago. There are 4 of 6 of us in this same boat. I'm not 25 years old anymore....I just don't think I can do it. We'll see what he says. Whatever this big company news is, it can't be good. I figure we've been purchased by another company or our privately held company is going public. Both will suck, I've been thru both of these scenarios and it involves 'Right-Sizing' and consolidating. Oy. I'm sure I'll be the first to get cut since I was the last hired. Whatever, I'm not sure I even care.

If I can get thru this soul-sucking job sober, I know it's possible to stay sober thru anything. One day at a time. Hugs to all, Byrdie

Pauly and Ava, my heart goes out to you both. I can’t even imagine the pain all that crap brings. So glad you are sober now xo

Hello Daisy! Welcome back, you know the routine, you can do it.

Byrdie, I hope the news doesn’t suck. Yeah, all that driving, that’s crazy.

Pav, it’s interesting how we have the same sorts of experiences when we were drinking. We probably did everything hungover .

Way to go G, 6 Months!! Yippee!

Hello Lav, it’s snowing here but is supposed to be above 0 all week, yes!

LC, I know you are having a hard time. Keep after it. Persistence is the key, don’t drink today <3

Have a good one everyone.

Don’t drink today.

Good evening Nesters,

It was sunny & 50 degrees today - woo hoo!!!!!
I hear some rumors about a possible snow/rain event next Monday, haha!!

G, wishing you a very happy 6 months AF :welldone:
It's such a good feeling ~ keep it going.

Byrdie, that company of yours sure tries to get blood out of a rock, ugh.
"Rightsizing" is such a ridiculous term but it could be a real blessing in disguise. Thinking of you as always :hug:

Narilly, anything above zero is good, LOL

Ava, I hope your trip to the vet goes well & you get to relax a little afterwards.
I think it's wonderful that you were able to come to terms with all that stuff - you are a better person than me. My ability to forgive is limited. I may forgive someone but then I never want to see them again.

LC, talk to us about stuff when you need to of course. We are willing to listen & not judge. Glad you are feeling better :)

Kensho, I pray for your computer files, ugh.

Hello Pauly, Pav, Wags & everyone.

Wishing a safe night in the nest for all!
Lav

Morning Nesters,

Couldn't read all the way back, but wanted to post my accountability check in this morning no matter what.
Get my mind set on the right track. Will be back after work..xx

Welcome back Daisy to this amazing group of people, which includes yo ass! Good to see you.

Thanks y'all for the 6 months congrat's. It's a significant milestone to be sure and i'm happy about it.

I know many of you have your hands full with life, but for me today i gotta express that the pace of life is slowing to a much more acceptable speed. A chilled wednesday arvo here lazing around at home. I've had a busy working week, but also flat out like a lizard drinking since start of year. My extra workload has officially ceased, so i have much more time and headspace available again! Plus a whacky ass noisy neighbour has pulled his head in so things are more relaxed round here. It seems i wasn't the only one who thought he was being a PITA! lol.

Hiya LC. :flip:

Byrdy, sheesh. I wouldn't bother driving all that way for that circus. They can do a skype call for remote workers. They do understand cameras and video technology don't they?! Maybe you had the flu on the day and wanted to rest up for Chicago.......

Take it easy out there.

Morning nesters,now Byrdie I think Mr.G has the right idea,that's a long ass day! Why can't they do a video chat? Makes too much sense probably, LC,good to see you even tho short and sweet,my posts have been like that cuz of the time change,feel too groggy to think haha;) Belle,where are you? How's your daughter? Hope all is OK:) Mighty,where'd you run off too? Hope our Chihuahua pics didn't scare you off,they don't bite haha,Ava,I didn't mean to jump into your story with my story the other day,just posted that cuz I woke up Sunday with a terrible dream about the sperm donor and I NEVER think of him,then I read your story about your uncle and could just relate,I wasn't trying to make it about me,maybe I still have alot of un-dealt with stuff surrounding that time in my life,hes dead now(cirrhosis) and my two brothers from that marriage say they don't believe me but I know they know cuz they used to laugh when he'd beat me and ask questions about the other abuse,I know they werent too young to not remember and my oldest brother had to go live with his friend as a teen cuz he stabbed SD in the leg with a screwdriver they fought so much, so when they try to make him some innocent,church going hero I get pissed! OK went on a rant haha,guess I'm fully awake for the day,waves to all and wishes for a fabuloso AF day!

My twin sister has been hospitalized since Feb. 28. She is ready for surgery now, and was just wheeled into the OR to have a large volleyball-sized growth & involved organs removed from her abdomen. Fingers crossed!