Newbies Nest

Just thought I would pop in tonight. I am doing okay, but sure miss my hubby. Thank you so much No Sug, I really do adore this man! He is my best friend and we are so happy together. I really and truly did not want drinking to ruin this relationship. Funny thing about being in such a bad marriage for way longer then I should have stayed, it makes me appreciate hubby even more.

No Sug, I am sorry about your babies moving. I don't have any but that would be hard for me. Change does come, life is all about change and I guess that is a good thing. Things do wind up working for the best even when we don't see it at the time, or even if it takes a long time to see.

Belle, Glad to see you here for day 2. That sober muscle will strengthen. Slips remind us of how precious each day of sobriety is.

Over-it, glad to see you on here too. You are so right, drinking is such a tremendous waste of time, no doubt about that.

I didn't get what I wanted done today :(. Sometimes the plan doesn't work, but I have tomorrow. Every time I started to get ready to work on furniture something would side track me. The power man came today to put in a new 'smart' meter, hope that it is smart enough to lower our bill. Daughter is excited, she interviewed for a job in a church day care this week, just something to get some cash, and they were pretty impressed with her. They are sending her application to their administration for a permanent pre-k position. That is cool, she worked for a private school in NC also. I so hope it works for her. I did go look at bed room set that was advertised locally, a really nice set. I think we may get it and use our set for guests. It is mid June now and still have not heard anything from his sister, IDK. Hubby is debating the expense right now, though it is such a great deal.

I guess with that I will just say good night and try not to fall asleep on the couch. I am so glad you are all here. Your support really means a lot to me, even to keep from being too lonely which can lead to a difficult evening. I do hope you all are having a good Friday evening.

Hi, All:

NoSugar, I love your posts. Thanks for that - I needed it. I love your take on recent changes. No use worrying about what is. My mom (who lives close) and I were talking about how back in the 1800s a son or daughter would move west and you'd never see him or her again. We're lucky we have FaceTime and email, etc., to at least keep in touch better.

Sunrise - Sorry you're down. Good news - you'll come back up eventually. You know what makes you feel better - not just in the moment. NOT alcohol. Stay strong.

Belle - I don't know what chalk painting is other than the sidewalk chalk art festivals I've seen. You can do it on furniture? I'm going to check that out.

I am grateful for this weekend. Time to clean the sheets and dust the cobwebs. Whoot!

Happy SOBER Saturday!
Pav

Afternoon All,

I just thought I would check in. Thanks Pav and you are right about the ups and downs. Sometimes hubby leaves and it is harder then other times. IDK.

I did do all that I could on my list. The furniture is stripped but the wood is still soft from the stripper so I need to wait for it dry out before I can sand it. The humidity is very high here right now so that will take the night, I am sure. I did do a few things around the house and now to figure something good for dinner. I have some chicken so I guess that will be put on the grill.

When I got on here last night I first checked FB because a dear fellow who I taught with had his parents living with him because of their failing health. He is such a good guy, around my son's age, and just loved his parents with everything he had. His mother was put in the hospital last week with a blood infection that she could not shake and unfortunately passed last night. I did not realize till after I got off here and gave one last look. He, his sister, and father are just heartbroken, as I am for them. Funny thing is I thought it was just him and his sister and I thought they were such a wonderful family. It turns out he has a brother that doesn't seem to have anything to do with his family. Where I envied them for such a close family, I don't feel so bad now. Family is who you are close too, even if they aren't blood.

I hope everyone is having a great Sober Saturday! Time for me to shower and get dinner together! I want to find something different to do with that chicken.

Yesterday morning at at 2:20am, a series of texts came in on my phone. My 8:30 am flight had been cancelled. I sprang up and clicked on the link to rebook another flight. What an ordeal on a cell phone. The next option was at 11am, getting me home at 11pm. I wasn’t thrilled, but I took it. I got up and got ready and began to think that I was being charged for both flights. I broke down and called our travel folks. She said that it was an 11 o’clock flight, THE NEXT DAY! She got me rerouted thru Dallas and I got the last seat on the last flight heading this way. Instead of flying out of LAX, I would now go out of John Wayne. By about 4:30 am, I’m ready and packed. I thought I could potentially get a couple more hours of sleep. I laid down and closed my eyes. My brain was having nothing to do with this attempt at relaxing. So I thought that I may as well get on over to the airport, I summonsed an Uber and was there by 5am. A little breakfast was in order. I walk by McDonald’s and a couple more eateries, I set my sites on a place called Ruby’s Diner. (My dog is Rubi, with an i). Even at this hour, they were packed. I found a stool at the bar of this old fashioned diner. I sat next to a lady about my age. About midway thru our meals, a guy comes up and orders a Chardonnay. ”6 ounce or 9?”, asked the crusty waiter. “9”, he said. He paid the bill and left. I thought about this for a few minutes and finally said to the lady, “Under what circumstances is Chardonnay at 6 am ok?” We had a chuckle. She asked where home was, and I told her NC. I said I was in LA for the National Retail Federation trade-show. She said that she was, too. She asked who I worked for, and I told her. She said She works for a company called ______. I said, you HAVE to be kidding, I worked there for 28 years! I asked her name, which I didn’t recognize and old her mine. She asked when I left and I said 3 years ago, she said that’s when she came in, she took XYZ’s place. I said he was my boss! Turns out, he got fired in the next round of layoffs! She asked how I liked it where I am, I said in many ways, it reminds me of the old company we used to work for, a very good company, but my heart is still with my roots, shoplifting deterrents (not intrusion alarms). I asked if they had any opportunities in NC, she said she might have! We exchanged business cards and asked me to connect with her on Linked In, which I did, and she accepted. This morning, I sent her a note saying how incredible it was that we met. She agreed and said that she had asked one of the guys I asked her about and he said, “OH I LOVE HER’. That was nice to hear! So I don’t know if anything will come out of it or not but what are the odds!?
Ive thought a lot about the guy ordering Chardonnay at 6am. I can’t come up with a single plausible justification of his order other than the fact that he is surely one of us. If I’d have had time, I would have shown NoSugar the wine shop I used to visit when I had a layover in Charlotte. In fact, that’s WHY I connected in Charlotte. All I can say is that I’m glad I’m not that guy.
I got in at midnight. Needless to say, I’m beat So glad to be home.
Do whatever it takes to break free of this addiction. I promise, it’s worth it.
Here is the view from my room
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Byrdie - I didn't know you were in my neck of the woods! Fingers crossed that this chance meeting turns out to be the best thing. :D And how great that you got and NS got to hug each other. Brought tears to my eyes. :heartbeat:
Sad to say, that I once thought a blood mary or a glass of champagne would have been ok to drink at 6 am. Now, I just shudder and turn a little green.

:checkin: I hope that everyone is having a happy day

Good evening Nesters,

Byrdie, I worked night shift for a number of years & never would have thought about drinking at that hour. Working nights makes you nauseous enough, no need to drink on top of that. The meeting you had with that person sounds like a wonderful gift from the universe. I hope it turns into something fabulous for you :)

Hi Nora, good to see you ;)

Pav, hope you got all those cobwebs, haha!! Such fun stuff!

New Sunrise, that’s great that your daughter found a possible summer position. I hope it comes thru for her.
Staying busy keeps me from overthinking things (another former bad habit). I seem to find enough variety around here to keep me happy. If worse comes to worse I just go outside & watch my chickens for a while. Sounds weird but they are entertaining ;)

I had one grandson here for half the day, took him home & brought the other one over. It’s better when they are here separately (no fighting) LOL
Wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

hi Renewal
i remember you from before, when I was just Witchywoman, i'm trying to come back, cause I'm worried that if I don't make it this time, I wont make it

Byrdie, I flew into Dallas on Friday too, at 7p -maybe we intersected at the airport also!
Wonderful news about the chance encounter and possibility of switching back to your old company!

Sunrise, I tried a clever dish with chicken today: fried chicken on a waffle, topped with syrup & gravy! Well it was new to me anyways.
I too loved your story of the too-short, makeshift chair for your younger brother, just like Brick’s chair on ‘The Middle”! I absolutely loved that show. So glad my sister introduced me to it, because I actually don’t like a lot of the shows on TV. That one was a gem.

Yay, Over-It is over it again and back!! Velcro in real tight now.

It’s going really well visiting my daughter & her fiancé here in Texas. They have been kind enough to make it a completely AF visit!

Have a safe night in the nest, everyone!

Evening nesters

Welcome back over it and Witchy. Im with you witchy, when i gave up i knew i had to, my brother died from al and i could see myself very vividly going down the same path. With the help of MWO and pure grit i am happy to be 5 1/2 years sober and hate al with a vengeance. Keep on here and you cant go wrong.

Slo i am so happy for you that your family showed the respect you deserve by not drinking. Its great when others realise you are serious in your choices.

Byrd, well that was amazing that all of that happened and you sat next to a woman from your old company. It surely means you will move on to something better and less demanding. i have everything crossed for you.

Lav, lucky you having your grandsons to love and spoil.

This weekend i had one son who lives a couple of hours away come and visit. i mentioned this to my eldest daughter and she said she wanted to see him which was a bit of a shock as they dont really get on (more her than him) and it was so nice he stayed an extra night and she came and spent time with him. this morning i called my other daughter who was crying and really upset so i drove in and picked her up. Sadly she could be one of us. When she drinks she cant have one or two it has to be 100 or more. i had a good chat to her and said i was like her once until i crossed the line and al became my whole focus and i didnt want her to become like me. There are times like these i feel so guilty that they saw me drink and appear to have fun and maybe i have in some way contributed to their drinking but i now can show them that it is a good life being sober, that i will never lose anything due to drinking now. Its affecting her relationship and thats not good, she sees that. so i am going to book an apt for her to see a psychologist that i see and go from there. Al is everywhere and i cant imagine not drinking in my 20's but i dont want her to become what i become, i want her to be like i am now and to save herself the pain and heartache of crossing that line and she will cross it one day. I am happy i can be there for my children and now set an example of life without al.

Still not well so think another day off work is in order.

Where are you Belle and LC?

Take care xx

thank you...im not in good place but I want to be free from all of it