Newbies Nest

Morning nesters

G, you sound like you are having a wonderful time and are very secure in your sobriety. The weather has gotten a bit warmer, a balmy 9 degrees at 5am so we are hotting up for you.

LC, good to see you checking in and you sound like you are in a beautiful spot. Dating sober is daunting but i know for me that i cant possibly be with anyone that drinks other than occasionally. I am happy in my life and dont really need anyone else in it to fulfill what i already have.

Belle, oh teenagers. as Pav says we know they arent going to be with their boyfriends forever, the problem i used to find was that i got very attached to the boyfriend and then the girls broke up with them. I was like "but i like him". You can only be there to support and give advice, which they wont listen to as you know nothing! ha ha.

Over, like you my daughter turned 32 in May and i still think where did the years go. I do prefer my adult children to the teenage ones i must say and its nice to be so close to them all. They are my reason (among a couple of others) for getting sober.

Nar, so glad you love your job, i wish i had your enthusiasm. I love my job but since my pay review i just dont seem to have the same enthusiasm. As they wont pay me what i asked as i dont fit the criteria, i am trying to get the job description of what they are now paying me but they seem to be a tad slow on the uptake with that. i do have another meeting in September to see if they come to the table and if not then i need to reassess my job which is a bit daunting as i have been here 12 years. I do know now that i wont be walked over and ignored.

Finally over the man flu but the energy levels are depleted after working all week. I am looking forward to the weekend and having some me time.

Hows that holiday Kensho? are you home yet?

Back to the salt mines, take care xx

Good evening Nesters,

Had a quiet day here (no kids) but it was so hot, not my fav weather. I heard today that Fall is only 66 days away :)

LC, nice to see you & I’m glad you are enjoying yourself. I hope the rest of your vacation goes well too. Maybe next week won’t be so bad for you.

Overit, Yay on your 3 AF weeks :welldone:
It keeps getting better, always remember that.

Ava, glad you are getting better & I hope you can catch up on sleep this weekend.

Narilly, loving the new job is awesome!!

Hello to Wags & everyone checking in today.
Wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

Hi Everyone! Last night here... flying home early tomorrow am. The trip got better because I focused on myself instead of my husband. So all good here... sober and so glad about that!

Congrats Narily I’m loving your new job environment!

I’ll have more to myself soon, and will be glad to check in more often.

Good night!

Hello all! Nice to see some familiar names, having been away for so long. For those who don't know me I'm an alcoholic! I drank from my late teens until my mid fifties. Nearly 6 years ago I quit cold turkey. (I didn't say I was very smart) For you newbies, see a doctor you can trust and, quit under medical supervision. Anyway i'm still very much sober. I sometimes wish I was more available to help folks starting out. My excuse for staying away is that I just really want to forget, and for the most part I no longer think about alcohol, not tempted at all but I worry that making my sobriety a focal point would also come with temptations.
Living life sober is a joy. I'm alive, not numb or sick or both. Drinking was so horribly exhausting. Getting the booze, hiding the booze, lying about booze, hiding the evidence, worrying that my next drive to the store would end in an arrest. My next fight with my wife would be my last. Worried that every little pain was my health finally taking a dive ( and oh it surely was, you can't drink a bottle of vodka a night and not do major damage). My message is simple. Life is far better (a little scarier at times, maybe) sober. Lasting sobriety is possible.

Good morning everyone!
I have this Friday off which is awesome. I am grateful for this job and now that I am sober I hope to really excel in it. The opportunity is there, YAY!!!!
Thanks for the congrats everyone.

Hello TJAF, great that you are still on track. I remember you, of course, we had lots of posts trying to stay sober and look where we are now.

Everyone sounds good, I am going to go get ready for the day and have another cuppa. The sun is shining here in Calgary and we are looking at three beautiful days of weather, oh yeah!

Don't drink today xo

Hi TJAF! Love when you stop in :)

Keep fighting for what you’re worth Ava. We get what we must have.

We were up at 2am our time for a flight and are now home eating breakfast. I’m out of it! Feeling sturdy in my quit and love my home... as much as I loved the moist air, beach and thick history of the Carolinas. Charleston was beautiful!

Today in the thinner air, I have laundry, groceries and hopefully a nap!

Congratulations on your new job, @narilly! It is cool that you are with all new people - you'll be just another run of the mill nondrinker at your first social event :smile:. I grew up in a family of nondrinkers so I know that there are TONS of people who never consume alcohol. We just don't let ourselves see that when we are in the throes of addiction.

It is good to see you @TJAF. It's great that you know yourself - better not to be immersed in addiction day to day. I, on the other hand, feel more comfortable with a daily reminder. Everyone needs to find their own way out. I'm so happy for you that you've found yours.

I am so excited! I have a date to chat with @lifechange on the phone next week! We have been typing friends for so long and now will have a chance to hear one another. I remember the first time I talked to @Byrdlady on the phone. I about fainted! It was the first time I had ever been that open to someone who knew what seemed like my shocking and horrible truth. I love what we have here in this forum but I would encourage everyone to make as many real life connections as you can. I'd just love for us all to be able to be together in a room and share a :hug:.

I've been traveling here and there for the last 3 weeks with only a few nights at home between trips with that continuing for another week. I'm a homebody at heart so this is not my favorite. I never would have been able to pull off all this driving and need-meeting if I were still drinking. And the truth is, I'm needed right now. I can only imagine how I would be feeling if I were lying and manipulating to avoid responsibility. My self image was already very low. There was no where to go but down.

Have a good AF weekend and upcoming holiday week (for those in the US). xx, NS

Bah! I was nervous talking to you, too, NS! I find it much easier to type it out, we actually Skyped, too! Putting a real face and voice to our connections has been just awesome. There are REAL people behind these posts!

I am suffering from vacation fever! This has been THE longest day! I'm looking forward to 5 o'clock! Ha, that used to be the brand of vodka I drank. I remember thinking they should rename it to 2:30 Vodka :egad:

It's only Friday! Not a ticket to BoozeVille! Byrdie

TJAF-Great to see you. Like you, I prefer to just not think about it, not make it a THING, just live life without it, but not a constant reminder that I'm living WITHOUT something. But, so far that hasn't worked for me because here I am, back again, 3 weeks under my belt this time. Been chasing this cycle for almost 7 years now. What a waste!

I'm so glad everyone is tucked in safe. Have a great weekend and just don't drink.

Good evening Nesters,

Still hot & nasty in Lav-land, yuck! We have a severe storm warning up at the moment & all we got was 3 minutes of light rain ~ weird!

Kensho, glad you are home safely & glad that you turned the focus on yourself. :)
That was the hardest thing for me to learn after a lifetime of people pleasing. Honestly, I look at it as a survival skill we all need.

TJ, great to see you as always! So glad you continue to do well too. There’s no turning back for us now ;)
I don’t think about drinking or not drinking anymore myself. Things are fine & just the way they should be, right?

Narilly, enjoy your weekend, you deserve a good one!

NS & Byrdie, I’ve enjoyed making friends here too :)
No real need to explain ourselves & no need to be nervous either.

Overit, you’re doing great. Just keep moving forward, no looking back!

I hope everyone has a safe night in the nest. I need to pop out & check on my newest flock of hens. They were added to the older flock today (kinda just snuck them in when no one was looking) haha. Now I can close up the nursery portion of the chicken house. Such exciting times, huh???

Lav