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      Hi, All:

      Thanks for the well wishes and support - it means a lot! I spent the day like any other, although I did tell my husband and son what day it is. I really haven't been TOTALLY honest with my sons - I tell them it was a habit, and that I didn't have an off switch, and that the writing on the wall was there for a more serious addiction. All true, I haven't gone into the details, including the fact that addiction is addiction.

      I'm so sorry to hear about 3June. I didn't know she was sick. I quote her all the time! Thanks for letting us know, Byrdie. So sad.

      Wags - did you do research? Did you get a vacuum? I get paralyzed by indecision with purchases like that, but maybe if you did the sleuthing you can let me know what you got? I'm in the market for a new vacuum. We have a 20+ year old Hoover that is actually doing ok - it is just huge and heavy and hard to lug around.

      Happy SOBER Tuesday (right, Pauly??
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      Today is my end of the line. went too far drinking and husband took a video of me. how embarrassing, yet I thought I was ok. I risk losing everything if I keep down this rabbit hole...if there is actually any further to go. You all are so helpful yet I needed the butt kick that was this morning from my hubs. Daughter had to call dad home from work early because i was acting "erratically". I don't deserve these kids. I don't know how to help my son and his legal problems. I am lost and have to find my way back or out. I hate being in my house, which is the only place that I drink. Put hubs cooking wine in the garage. I drank that. not even a third of a bottle, but with my meds, it is impairing. I wish I was in another place. I hope this is rock bottom...but I always fear that if things are bad they can get worse.

      I know I have the power in me somewhere. I just cannot find it.
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      Belle, YOU CAN DO THIS!! Take it hour by hour. Try and keep busy- clean the house, go for a walk, do Anything else that does not lead you to drink. Get out of the house and go for a coffee, meet a friend for lunch in a place where you usually don't drink.
      Now is the time to stop. You are to important to your family, they need you. Keep coming here and talking to us, we are 'full' of good ideas. Have a nice cup or two or three cups of coffee, don't let yourself get to hungry. Buy some L-Glutamine, that is supposed to help with cravings. Change up your routine.
      Hour by hour turns into
      day by day, start to live your new life today Belle. YOU are a strong woman.
      We have all been there and we all started in a terrible place just like you but it is Persistance not Perfection that will keep you sober.

      Byrdie, that sucks about June Like G says, hopefully she enjoyed the last years of her life being sober.

      Pav, I have a vacuum you can have- get up here and visit. Oh, and bring your winter coat, lol.

      So I am unemployed again. We lost a bunch of work so they let people go. Its ok, this job was not the awesome job I was hoping it would be, it was sucking the life out of me really. Onward and upward right? Time to enjoy the month of December. I am grateful to be around people that love me.

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      Belle, I just sent you a message.
      Narilly

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      AF April 12, 2014

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      Belle- it’s a hamster wheel, right? My husband has taken photos and videos of me too. I have been drunk in front of my son way too many times.
      The only ONLY thing that helps me to get out of the shame and guilt is to NOT DRINK.
      Right now I am new in sobriety again, so I literally have zero alcohol in my house. No cooking wine, no vanilla, no mouthwash, no nothing. Not in the house, not in the garage, nowhere.
      Byrdie has always told us to make a plan. Do you have a plan to stay sober?
      Xoxo
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      Goal 2: 14 days
      Goal 3: 21 days
      11/27/19: messed up but back on track

      One day at a time.

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      Good evening Nesters,

      Had a nice lunch out with old coworkers today! No AL in sight, nice!

      Belle, what are you waiting for? No one can change things for you but you. Take back your life & your family.
      Get rid of the AL & stops now. There’s nothing to be afraid of I promise & there will be no regrets

      Byrdie, I didn’t know 3June was sick, that’s sad to hear of her passing., RIP.

      Narilly, sorry about the job. Hopefully something better will open up real soon.

      Hi Pav, Nursie & everyone.

      Wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

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      Very sad to read about June I remember when Libit passed a few years ago and that was so sad too, Narilly sorry about the layoffs but you sound ok with it,(wish I'd get laid off) spur me into making a shop change,Wags, back when I had carpet I was always EXCITED to get a new vacuum,hubs thought I was crazy for getting so pumped but he doesn't clean so wouldn't know the joy haha,Belle,I really hope you can put your petal to the metal and stop,I'd be pissed if my hubs took video of me while drunk! It's not very funny to make light of someone not well and drinking makes is very unwell,I still get that Christmas drinking pull and it pisses me off! My day to day is so anti-alcohol but the light,music,etc of the holiday just makes me crave,I'm over it and I'll deal with it but it is annoying,waves to the gang and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day!
      I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink

      I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me"

      Off the table no MATTER what.

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      Good Wednesday morning, Nesters!

      A quick accountability check in on my way to work. I've been reading but not posting so much, which isn't smart as it is my number one Tool!
      So I'll be here this afternoon to write more.
      xx Hugs to you all.

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      Morning nesters,good for you to at least do a quickie post LC it really does keep us connected even if it's brief like mine is today haha! Wishing everyone a happy and healthy AF day! Slept awful for some reason so I'm just popping in,much love to all
      I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink

      I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me"

      Off the table no MATTER what.

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      Good Morning, All:

      Belle - I'm so sorry you're feeling like that. It is such a scary place to be. I agree with Nursie - for this first part, get ALL alcohol out of your house. That will make it a safe place. You can do what Ava did and just get into your pajamas the second you get home so you won't go out again. Make a deal with yourself that you'll post here when you're thinking of drinking NO MATTER WHAT. Just that pause will help. Get your husband's help. Did he film you to make a point? Is he supportive of your sobriety? Then he needs to stop bringing wine into the house! I cooked without wine for 6 years and it was all fine. He'll live. Can he be your support during the witching hour? Do you have the means to see a therapist or sober counselor? Have you tried an AA meeting? For me, the in-person support from my husband and counselor were key. You can always disappear from an online forum (not that we wouldn't chase you down). And you KNOW this, but I'll say it again. Any problems your son has will only be made worse by your drinking. He needs a sober, stable you so that you can make decisions and support him. Your daughter needs you, too. This situation will be stressful for her, too, and she needs you. A friend of mine had a baby two years ago. She had a crazy childhood with an alcoholic mom and dad. She was more or less a normie when she got pregnant, although she drank to excess sometimes as well. Here's what she texted to me, "Most importantly, becoming a mom made me realize even more how scary alcohol was for me as a kid, and I don't want to contribute to [my daughter] ever feeling scared or unsure of me. I want to model healthy behaviors and it's just not worth it for me to even have a glass. I've never been a one drink kinda gal." We are not giving up on you. Don't give up on yourself and your family.

      Nar - I'm sorry you got laid off. Your industry is so volatile. Can you parlay your skills into a job that is more stable? At least will you enjoy December off, or is it too stressful being out of work?

      Sorry you're craving, Pauly. Can you channel that energy into something positive? Do you want to change jobs? What would it take to make that happen? Getting sober made that happen for me.

      Glad to see you check in, LC. You're right, this is a tool for you. We'll see you tonight!

      Happy SOBER hump day, all.

      xo
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