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    Life doesnít stop, @julia1970, just because we somehow came to our senses and quit drinking. In fact, it may seem to come at you harder because youíre not hiding in an alcohol haze, numb to the worst of the blows. If it feels like the lows are worse, know that the highs will be higher and longer lasting because youíll be fully present to experience and remember them. I promise you the trade-off is worth it. Youíre doing great


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    Hola friends,

    Quick fly by. Yes NS. The trade off is so worth it. The transition period can be a little uncomfortable from boozing to when we are feeling more, senses come alive again, foggy thinking and foggy disposition fading. but when we stick it out and back ourselves, the results are - NO LIMITS.

    Did i just see a thread announcing Byrdy hit 9 years of sober living? Yes.i.did. Great stuff Ma'am. Love you and love your work.

    Big waves to evabody.

    'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

    Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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    Good evening Nesters,

    Byrdie, CONGRATS to you on your 9 year AF anniversary!!!
    I have always been proud of you, I hope you know that
    You have gone on to inspire many here & that’s just awesome!

    MaryLou, CONGRATS to you on your 6 years AF
    It just keeps getting better & better!!

    Julia, family has been know to literally make me feel sick as well. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
    I realized somewhere along the line that those certain people will never behave the way I would like, it’s their choice & it’s also their loss since I no longer have contact with them. It’s just not worth the agony IMHO. Take care of you because you are healing & doing great!

    Ava, I’m thinking about my big Swiss Mountain dog, the one who weighed over 100 lbs. I wanted to walk her for exercise to lose weight but her arthritis prevented her from walking in a hilly area. I almsot cried a few times trying to get her home because I certainly couldn’t carry her . I think young Carl is waiting for cooler weather, haha!

    Hi G!!

    NS, enjoy your quiet time. Sounds like a good opportunity to pull out the hobbies - knitting, sewing, etc!!

    Hello to everyone & wishing a safe & cozy night in the nest for all!

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    Hi, All:

    CONGRATULATIONS on 9 sober years, Byrdie. You are one of my OG Nest Moms - your humor and no BS advice have been so valuable to my own sobriety. I am so grateful to have gotten to know you here, and glad you stick around to share your wisdom. I hope you had a BIG celebration today...

    Ava, my small dog started doing that to me, but just on particular trails. I sometimes carried her because I couldn't get her to budge. I also found that a leash helped (she didn't need a leash otherwise). Carl is just a teenager - figuring out his own mind...

    Julia - sorry for your family stuff. Being sober through it all should help. Hope it does.

    Pauly, I agree with Lav - life is too short for a job that is bad.

    I have had a busy but nice weekend. A couple of good hikes, yoga, time with family. I didn't end up volunteering at the Inn - I decided service to myself was needed. Another time...

    Happy SOBER Monday,
    Pav

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    And CONGRATULATIONS to you, @Marylou ! Six years is an amazing achievement as well. xo

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    day 20. woke up with a fever, it appears i have the flu now. couldn't permit myself to cancel appointments so hurray for painkillers and fever suppression. i am sooo happy the work is finished for today, and i can crash. i so much hope i'll feel better tomorrow...!

    thank you all for your heartwarming messages. it means a lot, i really feel supported by you all.
    you're right NoSugar, being present sometimes means being present to pain. that's okay. being present to pain means the pain can be processed, and opens up the possibility to grow though it. that's what i intend to do.

    i would want to respond some more, but i need to sleep now!

    have a great day, night or something in between dearest people

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    Hi Peeps!
    Checking in at six years to say yes, Lav, it just gets better and better. Those that have been with me (thank you Lav, Brydie, NS!, Ava, Pav, etc) know how low my low was. I NEVER imagined how good it would be. I absolutely love being sober - it lets me handle the lows and the highs appropriately! And I remember it all.

    Julia - youíre right. Pain leads to growth. Growth builds character. Day 20 is an achievement-you go girl.

    This year Iíve really worked on learning to let go of anything I canít control. And thatís just about everything! Except drinking alcohol (NO) or treating anybody disrespectfully (I hope I donít). When I feel what used to be a trigger (like hubs forgot my overnight bag on a little trip last weekend) I can now examine my part (I assumed he picked it up like usual but I didnít ask.) Six years ago this would have been a great reason to drink. And get in a big fight. And treat him like shit for a few weeks. But last weekend I just googled TJ Max, it was only 1.5 miles away, and scored a new outfit, including shoes, for less than $30. Problem solved; everybodyís happy. We went out for a nice dinner with friends. It doesnít always work out that neatly. But itís never war anymore. And I donít obsess over perceived slights anymore because Iíve gained a confidence I could never claim when I was drinking. And that, my friends, is true freedom.

    Happy anniversary Byrdie - you have been, and continue to be, an inspiration. And Ava, congratulations on your recent six year celebration. I hope to be one month behind you (in sobriety) forever! A special shoutout to Cowboy too!

    Love - ML
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marylou123 View Post
    And I don’t obsess over perceived slights anymore because I’ve gained a confidence I could never claim when I was drinking. And that, my friends, is true freedom.
    You nailed it here, MaryLou. I thought so poorly of myself, I think I assumed everyone else did, too. I felt like I deserved any sh*t thrown at me. And I bet most of it was just perception! We are so good at making up stories about what other people are thinking and feeling and then believing those stories are true. What a pointless waste of time!!

    I'm so glad you're free. xx, NS


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    Greetings Nesters!

    Still very cold here but the sun was present today which made it better

    NS, I think getting our self respect back was the biggest gift of all!!!
    I still wonder just where & when I lost my self respect. Was it one big event or was there a slow leak all the way along? Did I become depressed because I lost myself or did the depression come first? Kind of a chicken or egg thing I guess. All I know is I have a firm grip on my reality now & I’m not letting go. Nothing is perfect but everything is OK

    Pav & Marylou, all you have to do is keep yourselves moving forward. You guys have done the hard work & you know it’s value!

    Julia, wow, I hope you feel better soon. Please take good care of yourself.

    Wishing everyone a safe & comfy night in the nest!

    Lav
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    Julia, feel better! Gosh, I’m sorry you feel poorly.
    Mary Lou, thank you so much for the kind words and the inspirational sentiments. I have found the same thing, I feel empowered! Congrats on your 6 big years!

    Well, the good news is that my customer singed the contract. The bad news, they made some changes we can’t accept. Our attorneys reviewed them all afternoon and will send back a revision in the morning. I HOPE they will sign it. What the customer did was a bit underhanded. Nice try, I guess.
    Then the work of getting them installed begins. Thank you all for your positive vibes!

    Congrats to everyone who made it thru this day AF! That’s a win in my book!
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