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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Rahul, what an inspiring post! I remember when you first started here, you really have so much to be proud of, what an accomplishment! You just don’t see this every day, here’s your Llama! your writing is so descriptive, you take us on a journey. Would you consider tucking that In the Tool Box for us? Congratulations, we are just thrilled for you! Byrdie
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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Good evening Nesters,

    First of all CONGRATS Rahul on 6 years AF
    You have done such a great job, we are all proud of you!
    Stay well & stay in touch too!

    Byrdie, wow your extended family has some issues, geez!
    Makes one especially grateful to not be involved in any sort of addiction, huh? Good job providing support to them!

    Wags, glad you are feeling better.
    As family as the family gathering goes, just be your usual strong self. Say No Thanks & move on

    Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

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    wow Rahul, what a great post! thank you! and congratulations!

    i am touched by your congratulations about reaching 50 days. to me it somehow doesn't seem like much of a thing, though not long ago i couldn't even imagine doing 50 days without drinking or smoking pot... what a shift in perspective... crazy.

    Byrdie your post about your family moves me. how strong and kind you are to be able to deal with that and to have emerged from that the way you are.

    day 51. slept a bit better, and having a hard time waking u pafter this. i feel like a zombie! which is okay, i have no committments for contact today except for diving into a bathtub with my man tonight.
    hurray it's almost weekend. i'm going to do NOTHING serious this weekend.

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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Happy Un Hung Friday everyone!

    Wow, Rahul, what a great post. I loved it. I too will have 6 years in a few months. Time sure flies, there were a few of us that quit around that time (Ladies with a Mission) and here we are 6 years later. YOU RAAWK RAHUL, I am so happy for you. It is so great to see all the other benefits that came along with sobriety, what a great testament to being sober.

    Byrdie, that is so awful. To see addiction up close like that seems unreal. So glad you are not in that rabbit hole.

    I went swimming this morning and now off to the market with my daughter. Happy to be Un Hung and be able to do these things before noon.

    Don't drink today xo

    Julia, 50 days is a lot and 51 days is even better! Keep it up.
    Narilly

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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Hey Julia, I am so Happy for you !! 50 days is HUGE !! Your ROCK !!

    With each day you will be stronger and stronger.

    Few things stayed with me when I was in MWO. I recal someone mentioned... thike this story of deamon .....
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    We addicts will ALWAYS have that Devil/Demon with us all the time. We cannot get rid of it. It will always be there reminding us to have another drink. All we have to make sure that he is tamed. We control him and keep him outside of the house. And not with you. So when you open the window do expect to see this deamon waiting for you and reminding you for a drink. But we cannot run away from it. We have to accept him . He will be around. And rather than running away we habe to weaken him. Make him powerless. Smile back him. Express your gratitude to him. Coz he will always remind you why you are sober. And why you are on recovery. And these thoughts will make him weak and weak.

    When we feed the deamon he grows. When we fear him or run away from it then it grows more !! When we caccept him keep him out if house and yet realise him.being around without getting bothered by it will weaken it's willpower and strength. Soon then deamon will as small as a mouse and then as small as an ant. But it will be around ... And be grateful that !

    Without the deamon you will not appreciate sobriety. It will bring so much power within you.
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    Julia here is another thing I read during my early recovery which stayed with me ....
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    When going towards sobriety. Reward yourself everyday. It could be a simple PAT in the back or a hug with yourself or rewarding yourself with someting as small as an Ice cream or a chocolate. I reward myself with a scoop of ice cream every day ! The feeling of gratitude brings about such a positive change ...
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    I also read this book called "The Easy way to control Alcohol - Alan Carr" . It helped a lot .
    Rahul
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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Thanks a lot everyone for your wonderful wishes. I am sorry I am not posting so regularly. But MWO will always be part of me. Lav, Byrdie, Nosugar, Mario pavati and somany ol timer who helped me a lot in my early sobriety. I am what I am because of you all !!

    Thanks so much.
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    Re: Newbies Nest

    morning nesters

    Congratulations Julia on 50 days a wonderful achievement and lovely to see the changes in you from when you first started.

    Rahul happy 6th birthday, time flies when your having fun so they say. Lovely of you to pop in and say hi.

    Byrd your family is a clanger i must say. There is something to be said for my small dysfunctional family i must say ha ha. You must have had so many people to drink AT in the day.

    Wags, i know you wont drink, we always overthink occasions and be proud of your sobriety, we are.

    Nar, arent girls the best. I love mine to bits and love going out with them. hard as teenagers but lovely now they are grownup.

    Hi Pauly, i thought you had gone AWOL, but nope you posted. I hope your new puppy is behaving.

    I have mum coming to visit for the night. she was coming, she wasnt, she was, she wasnt. I just said it was her choice, im not engaging with her negativity now. I will take her out and about. My son needs a break from her so might see if she wants to stay longer, depends on how she behaves! As my psych says i cannot change her behaviour but i can change how i react.

    I have an apt to speak to a rescue person and hopefully start taking rescue dogs in. Im a bit excited about that and i am sure carl will like the company. Its amazing that instead of wanting to do all of these things, i can since i dont drink. I was always a "gunna" person when i drank and never did anything.

    Time for a coffee and to start the day.

    take care xx
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    Ava is a SHPFFFDU ! (Special, honest, practical, fantastic friend from downunder) - thank you NS

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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Good evening Nesters,

    Chilly day here but we are promised a ‘spring-like’ weekend - we shall see haha!!

    Ava’s Dog Rescue sounds great!!!! Carl can be the big/little brother & show them the ropes
    I hope your Mom behaves, I know you will!!!

    Rahul, thanks for stopping by. We love to see our nest graduates succeed!

    Narilly, swimming sounds so nice, glad you are getting to enjoy that!

    Julia, 51 days & counting, awesome

    Hello to the rest of the group & wishing everyone a safe & comfy night in the nest!

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    Rahul - CONGRATS friend!!!! That's such a great accomplishment, and it was fun to read about all the things you've done since you set yourself free from al.

    Nar - sounds like you're having a wonderful time in Mexico

    Byrdie - sorry to hear about your family and oxycontin. It is criminal what the maker has done and now we have so many people who've been harmed by this and similar drugs. I was on oxy and percocet for 3+ years after a bad spinal injury (about 20 years ago) and it was literally almost impossible to get off. Even with a medically guided taper, the withdrawal as pure hell and went on for months and months. It took every ounce of resilience I had, plus the love and support of a few friends and family members. I think it took years for my brain to fully recover, and sometimes even now I think it *hasn't* fully recovered. I hope those in your family can find a better path, as the opioid one is an extremely rough one for sure.


    Thanks everyone for the support around my family gathering. It's weird - I haven't felt this way in a *really* long time. I don't want to drink, but for one of the few times since I quit 3.5 years ago, I find myself wishing that I could. But you know what, that wishing is based on what the al voice is telling me the drinking would feel like, will look like. It's the glamorization of it not the reality of it.

    I think this is bubbling to the surface because it's a rare time for me to be semi thrown back into a group of people I haven't seen much really throughout my adulthood. I've never been a drinker around them, but whoo boy are they all drinkers. Maybe the wine glass IS glued to my cousin's hand as a marketing prop! Anyway, I know I'll be fine it's just strange and a bit unnerving to be having feelings like this. Just a reminder to never take our quits for granted and to never let our guards fully down. Not that we should walk around on edge, but just do the maintenance and still think ahead when we find ourselves having out-of-the-ordinary thoughts. Good thing is, as NS says, they're just thoughts and we have LOTS of thoughts we never act on.


    Hellos and waves to Pav, Lav, Ava, Julia, and everyone else stopping by the nest this weekend. I head out early tomorrow morning for the memorial gathering and might not get back on here until Monday but will try to check in. I'm taking you all with me in my pocket!

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    Hi, All:

    Congratulations to you, Rahul! Thanks for checking in and letting us know how it is going. 6 years is amazing!

    Byrdie - that must have been frustrating and sad for you. I hate Oxy - so much damage. Maybe your stepmom WILL go to assisted living? I wonder what her house is like if she is like that?

    Wags - Oh, do I feel you! I am going to meet up with some friends I haven't seen in YEARS! I know there will be wine and a lot of laughs - and because of the years, a bit awkward. I'm not sure I would phrase it as "cool," but I have been thinking about "fitting in" a little. I don't want them to be awkward because of me. Also, another story - I was at a reunion with my cousins - 9 of them plus spouses - right after I quit. It was a weekend and we had several parties and gatherings. No one noticed I wasn't drinking until the third day! I always had a drink in my hand (no one knew it was just seltzer and lime), and I fit right in like always. You probably could fly under the radar on this one if you want...

    Sounding good, Nar. I can't imagine having the motivation for a swim in your weather (even in an indoor pool) - good for you!

    Ava - being a foster dog mom is perfect! You might make it so comfortable they don't want to leave... Carl will be a great big brother.

    Pauly, I missed you, too. Thanks for checking in at the nest!

    Hi, Lav and everyone else.

    I had a great three days in the mountains - nature and exercise were just what the doctor ordered.

    Pav

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