Newbies Nest

[Anjicia]

Afternoon all well it started with rain here but sunny now and temps the same since the weekend around the 56f mark. Yes its good i can visit my sister as she misses her husband whom she cannot visit and he is 5 weeks now. I didn't know also yesterday they were 52 years married and another one they cannot be together and celebrate. I could cry too. He is not doing great in hospital his weight has gone down and on a lot of meds. Its not looking great but what we can we do for now both side of the family are worried but trying to be stay hopeful lthat at least he can get home soon. Not much to else to say i just finishing my usual house and some laundry cleaning and going our for a walk and then i need to pick up more cat food. Ok wishing you all well xxx

[narilly]

Happy Un Hung Tuesday everyone.

Hello Anj, our temp is about the same as yours. +9C today, which is around +48F. Okay, the same but cooler Sorry about your sister's hubby, that really sucks. Hopefully he does come home soon.

Byrdie, I read Wags post and I feel the same way about the neighbour get together. It must have really sucked, sometimes people are not very nice. You would definitely be invited to any party I had!

Hubby left to go back up north for work so I am solo. It is pretty nice actually. Nice when he comes back and nice when he leaves because I know he is coming back. Now I don't have to watch sports for a week, haha. Although I might watch the very end of the World Series, maybe..

Anyway, I am off to go for a walk. I have to take advantage of this warm weather!

Don't drink today.

[Lavande]

Greetings Nesters,

Pretty much sunless all day, 61 degrees so not all that bad. I know we’re expecting heavy rain (up to 3”) here Thursday from the latest hurricane approaching the southern coast now. This has been a super busy year for strong storms. 2020 will be remembered for a lot of uncomfortable things.

Wags, it depressing the way they rammed that unfit women onto the court last night, in the dark without ceremony. Now I am all for adding a few more justices to the SC To balance things out a bit, geez.
The fight for our democratic rights will go on, no doubt!
Back when I was getting ready to quit I had to ask myself if I would have been willing to hand my newborn over to someone who may or may not be completely sober on any given day. I just knew the only answer was to quit & stay quit if I wanted that special time with my grandson. So yeah, he was my motivation & I am forever grateful.

Anjicia, hope your day turned out well & you got your walk as planned.
Sounds like your sister & her husband are going to need some help at home. It’s hard for the elderly to manage everything even on a good day.

Narilly, you sound like me appreciating the alone time, haha!! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that & yuo couldn’t make me sit & watch sports on TV, haha!!

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[Byrdlady]

Lav, you are an awesome Chicken Tender! I hope the newer chicks are thriving.

Sunny, great to see you. I’m so glad you popped in to share your good news. 7 years is big! Don’t be a stranger!

You’ll never believe this, the neighbor who didn’t invite me to her ladies masquerade party called me today and asked me if I could do a cake for her boyfriend in the shape of a whisky barrel with Jim Beam logo on it, with small bottles of Jim Beam on the top. She wanted a 10” cake to feed about 30 people.
She said, ‘I would insist on paying you’.
#1. I don’t have 10” pans, so would have to buy.
#2. I don’t have wood grain molds, would have to buy.
#3. It had special lettering on it (a Jim Beam label) that I would have to buy.
#4. I would have to go to the liquor store and buy the small bottles of Jim Beam.
#5. 30 people during a pandemic is reckless. No wonder our numbers are soaring.
#6. I am capable of making this cake, but since I wasn’t worthy of your other party, I’ll take a hard pass.
Shallow? Maybe. Besides, as you know, I don’t condone AL so it now goes against my religion to produce a cake like that. I also made a vow never to buy it. The way she said ‘I’d insist on paying you’ just hit me the wrong way. Like I’d spend $100 on this cake and give it to you? People got a nerve. I declined.

Anj, these are hard times. It’s ok not to be ok. Hugs to you.
Walk, thinking of you and wishing you strength. One day at a time got every single one of us through!

Have a great evening all. Byrdie

[wagmor]

Byrdie - good for you. Boundaries are important and you've set and respected yours. Big kudos to you!

[Pavati]

Hi, Nest:

Byrdie - what is WRONG with people!?!?! I am so glad you took that hard pass. What gall she has...

I'm with you Wags - generally optimistic turning into a complete pessimist. I just was listening to the radio about how voices from leaders could do a lot to quell impending violence but that so far the current Cheeto in Chief has done the opposite. I don't see that changing. And all of those people who are propping him up right now...

I have to run but wanted to quickly check in. Nar - get that zipper fixed. Lav - glad your grandson changed your life, Ken, an new day... Anj, G, Wake, Belle, Pauly, and everyone else - we got this. Our sobriety is one thing in this world we CAN control as long as we don't take that first sip.

Pav

[Quit wining]

Byrdie, well done and good for you for sticking to your principles. I bet your neighbour was surprised you declined her “offer”.

QW

[Anjicia]

Evening all not much to report here another quiet day. I just had to go to the post office and a pharmacy nearby. I just a walk around town not enough for proper exercise but fresh air. It is getting colder but nice sunny spells again today. byrd i did read about the neighbour that excluded you from the gathering which i though was very rude. Even if you declined to attended she could have had manners to ask anyway. Well done for turning her outright for asking you to go out of your way to bake a cake with alcohol minis and a logo. She had some nerve so good for you for putting her straight. Wag sorry to hear you were a bit down i don't American politics much so i don't about laws passed htere but i hope you feeling a bit chipper now. I think everyone is going through something and the times we are in does not help. Oh ii got 2 books in the post i ordered online from a lady i follow on youtube and facebook and she has a website too and i think also instagram. Colette O Neill she lives in a lovely old cottage in the west of Ireland on 3 acres. She is into permaculture and her cottage and land is awesome and hte worjk she does. Her cottage is called Bealtine cottage and she can has many videos on youtube plus her books and other stuff on her website. worth a look in anyone is interested. If you google Bealtine cottage Colette o Neill. Hi to everyone else have a pleasent afternoon/evening.

[Lavande]

Good evening Nesters,

The day went by fast, all days seem to be doing that lately, haha. Maybe it’s the shorter daylight hours? We turn the clocks back one hour this Saturday night so I guess we get more darkness next week. Ho hum!

Byrdie, I am so glad to hear your turned down that request. People are incredibly insensitive, some are just downright dumb!!!
I hope she ends up paying $200 for that cake made by someone who doesn’t care, haha! Honestly, the older I get the easier it is for me to tell people NO without any explanation whatsoever I’mproud of you for taking a stand for yourself!

Wags, you doing OK?
I’m trying real hard not to look too much into the future. We don’t really know how things are going to shake out & I don’t want to waste my time or energy. You take care

Pav, I do feel very lucky my grandson came along when he did! I was at my lowest point, feeling pretty hopeless & really couldn’t find anything to look forward to anymore. He saved my skin, for sure
Hope your day was a good one!

QW, nice to see you!

Anjicia, that’s interesting about Collette O Neill, I’ll look her up. Glad you got out & about today, even a short walk helps!

Hello to the rest of the nesters & wishing everyone a safe night!

Lav

[Guitarista]

Hola nesters,

Anj, cool re permaculture etc. We can grow herbs and veggies even on a balcony in the city. Such things are great projects. thanks for the info. I love the west of Eire.

Good call Byrdie on the cake. Sheesh! I agree with Wags about maintaining boundaries. We don't have to say yes to everything or anything. Saying NO is good sometimes. Thinking it through is the process which gives us time and space to make a considered decision, as opposed to an emotionally driven one off the cuff.

Big waves to y'all. Take care over there. Crazy times all round. Like Pav says - we CAN control whether we decide to drink or not. We decide and control how we live and operate amid the madness. As long as i take care of my inner self and keep a balance of sorts, i'm more than ok.